(Closed) So my friend cancelled his wedding..

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i’d maybe bring him a bottle of wine? or a bottle of great scotch and some lo boys, but leave it in the car just in case no one else brings anything and you can go to the car with an oh dang i forgot the gift in the car type deal and later on perhaps give him the gift…

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think bringing him a bottle of something, scotch might be good, and then having a night out with a bunch of people would be justttt what he needs! don’t worry about what other guests are doing, if you feel comfortable giving him something in person (for some reason I think in person is better then mailed, if you live close by) then go for it.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

ohh. I think that might be a bit awkward or inappropriate, giving him some money ot cover the expenses. But if he has mentioned something about his financial pressures, then it might not be a bad idea.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

hmmm thats tough but I’m glad he made the right decision.  I would think a gift specifically set out to make him relax especially during such a rough time would be great.  How about a gift certificate for massage, a day of golf or his favorite sport, something you know he would like but would never spend the money for it. 

Good luck.  Let me know what you end up doing Smile

 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

No check, but a bottle of good alcohol would be nice.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s cool he’s still throwing a party! Definiely a boy gift like nice scotch is appreciated. Not sure a gift is really necessary, but he’ll take it as a nice act of friendship and not read into it all intensely the way a chick would =]

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m not sure a check would be appropriate…. But I like the idea of getting him a bottle of something, or a gift certificate for a massage.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Definitely alcohol.

And @ejs – good scotch is most certainly not a boy gift. Anyone wishing to gift me a nice bottle of scotch, please feel free 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that giving him money would be kind of awkward.  I think alcohol is the way to go (provided he is legal of course).

Post # 14
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3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

hey man, after cancelling a wedding, i think anyone deserves a shot, legal or not!!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I definitely wouldn’t give him money. It’s no longer a wedding, so a “man” gift seems entirely appropriate here. I LOVE the scotch idea. Maybe a massage gift certificate? This has got to be very stressful for him. Sporting event tickets? Anything that will lift his spirits and cater to his specific needs.

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