(Closed) So, my mom thinks I'm crazy…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Am I insane for thinking about a nonmedicated natural birth?
    Girl you're insane- who would go through that pain when they don't have to? : (62 votes)
    38 %
    Crunchy all the way! Bring on the granola, but hold the pain meds! : (89 votes)
    55 %
    Obligatory other... : (12 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    No, why would you be crazy?  Tons of women do this, and you’ll probably hear from some of them.  In fact, it’s a pretty hot topic on the boards and people get grumpy and holier-than-thou (on both sides of the debate) when they talk about it, so prepare yourself.

    Post # 4
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    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @DaneLady:  The way I see it, my body was designed to do this.  Thousands of women have done this before me, and thousands more will after me.

    I would have died, or my baby would have died. My pelvic bones are crooked and I had to have an emergency c-section because the baby got stuck, after 18 hours of labour, hoping for a natural birth. I didn’t have any pain meds until they had to put a epidural in me for the c-section. I was so disappointed!

    Hope you can do it! I applaud women who can.
     

    Post # 5
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I don’t think you’re crazy at all. I’m a big advocate of women educating themselves about their birthing options and going with what seems like the best fit for them, whether that be a hospital, birthing center, or at home with a midwife. Where I live there’ s a wonderful birthing center where women can have natural births in a tub and have the flexibility to walk around and experiment with different positions while giving birth. The great thing is it is literally a few blocks from the hospital so there’s the added sense of security in case there are unforseen complications. Explore your options and choose what feels best for you and makes the most sense for your pregnancy!

    Post # 6
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s fine and should be up to your husband and you. There are pros and cons to everything. It’s also possible to have natural child birth in hospital you just have to find the right place and right doctor. I think they noticing that more and more woemn are going down that path.

    My best friend has issues finding the right place and eventually did. I didn’t even know that hospitals had restrictions about a women being flat on her back, her walking around, breastfeeding right after the babys born and all that. Make sure you find out what rules they have, if they are supportive of your birthing plan, if you are getting a doula(my friend had one) that she allowed to be in the room. I also think it’s important to have a back up plan and doctor at a local hospital if you have a at home birth just in case anything happens and you have to go in.

    Basically do your research and ask your questions.  Either way I feel on the parents on have the right to choose. Thank your Mom for her opinion, then ask her to support whatever chocies you make.

    Post # 7
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    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Why would she think you are crazy? Like a PP said, thousands of women have had successful unmedicated births.

    I plan on having one, although I am not opposed to pain interventions. However, I will go as long as possible without them (hopefully, I won’t have to get any at all), but if I have to have some pain medicine (EPI included), so be it!

    I plan on listening to my body and making any decisions from there.

    Good luck! It can definitely be done!

    Post # 9
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    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Sounds to me like you have the best possible attitude– you have a pretty good idea of what you want, and you realize that it might not go according to plan. I am pretty much the same as you– I’d prefer to have as few interventions as possible, but I’m glad the option is there if anything happens. 

    In the US, I think our moms’ generation tended to have a more standard medicated birth, the same way a lot of us weren’t breastfed because our moms were told it wasn’t better. Only you know what is right for you. 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    A natural unmedicated birth is ALWAYS better. It was all the rage when I had my daughter and to tell you the truth, only transition (between 8 and 10 cm) was really painful. That being said, sh*t happens and sometimes pain meds are wonderful things.

    Post # 12
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    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Don’t worry about it! I think our moms were hit over the head with the epidural stick -probably  the way that their moms hit THEM over the head about how painful childbirth is.

    No question, our bodies are designed to do this. That said, a lot of women also used to die in childbirth (not from pain mind you, but I just think we shouldn’t completely eschew medical advances). I’m taking what I’m calling the “naturally practical” approach. I’m planning to do all the classes, read the books, attempt a totally natural birth BUT it will be in a hospital with a doctor and if I scream for an epidural I’m damn well getting an epidural.

    That said, I’m MORE nervous about not feeling the lower half of my body and not being able to get up and walk around than I am about the pain of childbirth. At least at the moment.

    Post # 13
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    2808 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @DaneLady:  I think it’s awesome that you are making an educated decision to do what you feel is best for yourself, but also keeping your options open just in case you legitimately need medical intervention. The attitude of “this is what I’m shooting for, but we’ll deviate from that plan if we need to,” is a good one to have because you won’t set yourself up for disappointment in your experience. Whenever I get PG I am 100% in favor of doing a med/intervention free birth, but I also know that things can changed just based on how your labor progresses. I don’t think you’re crazy at all.

    I’ll bring the granola.

    Post # 14
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    1026 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I don’t think it’s for me but you’re not crazy.  More power to you.  I am a wuss about pain! 🙂

    Post # 15
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    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    NO you are definetly NOT crazy! I had my daughter last year and did it au-natural. It was not a walk in the park but I made it through. They do not call it labor for nothing lol. One thing that worked for me was telling the nurses to stop coming in the room and asking if I wanted an epidural and it would take the pain away. I said I know where you are and if I need it I will call you. My daughter came out healthy and eyes wide open lol. Go for it you can do it

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