Post # 1
I mentioned the possibility of a non-medicated, natural birth. My mom basically said she thinks I’m insane! I tried to explain that I’m open to interventions, but I’d really like to try to avoid them unless medically necessary (fetal distress, poor fetal position, etc…)
The topic came up with my dad as well (which was awk-sauce anyway) but surprisingly, he seemed more supportive than my mom. He said that I’m a tough cookie and if anyone could handle a natural birth it would be me.
The way I see it, my body was designed to do this. Thousands of women have done this before me, and thousands more will after me. I want to give my baby the best possible start, I want to be able to nurse right away, I want to be able to labor in a position that is comfortable to me- whatever that may be- and sometimes being doped up or heavily medicated could possibly preclude that.
On the other hand, the advances we have in medicine these days are simply amazing. If something were to go wrong I like knowing I have the support of a wonderful hospital to keep my baby and me safe and healthy. I’m open to the idea that my birth might not go as I want it to, but I really want to try. Am I really just crazy?
Post # 3
No, why would you be crazy? Tons of women do this, and you’ll probably hear from some of them. In fact, it’s a pretty hot topic on the boards and people get grumpy and holier-than-thou (on both sides of the debate) when they talk about it, so prepare yourself.
Post # 4
@DaneLady: The way I see it, my body was designed to do this. Thousands of women have done this before me, and thousands more will after me.
I would have died, or my baby would have died. My pelvic bones are crooked and I had to have an emergency c-section because the baby got stuck, after 18 hours of labour, hoping for a natural birth. I didn’t have any pain meds until they had to put a epidural in me for the c-section. I was so disappointed!
Hope you can do it! I applaud women who can.
Post # 5
I don’t think you’re crazy at all. I’m a big advocate of women educating themselves about their birthing options and going with what seems like the best fit for them, whether that be a hospital, birthing center, or at home with a midwife. Where I live there’ s a wonderful birthing center where women can have natural births in a tub and have the flexibility to walk around and experiment with different positions while giving birth. The great thing is it is literally a few blocks from the hospital so there’s the added sense of security in case there are unforseen complications. Explore your options and choose what feels best for you and makes the most sense for your pregnancy!
Post # 6
I think it’s fine and should be up to your husband and you. There are pros and cons to everything. It’s also possible to have natural child birth in hospital you just have to find the right place and right doctor. I think they noticing that more and more woemn are going down that path.
My best friend has issues finding the right place and eventually did. I didn’t even know that hospitals had restrictions about a women being flat on her back, her walking around, breastfeeding right after the babys born and all that. Make sure you find out what rules they have, if they are supportive of your birthing plan, if you are getting a doula(my friend had one) that she allowed to be in the room. I also think it’s important to have a back up plan and doctor at a local hospital if you have a at home birth just in case anything happens and you have to go in.
Basically do your research and ask your questions. Either way I feel on the parents on have the right to choose. Thank your Mom for her opinion, then ask her to support whatever chocies you make.
Post # 7
Why would she think you are crazy? Like a PP said, thousands of women have had successful unmedicated births.
I plan on having one, although I am not opposed to pain interventions. However, I will go as long as possible without them (hopefully, I won’t have to get any at all), but if I have to have some pain medicine (EPI included), so be it!
I plan on listening to my body and making any decisions from there.
Good luck! It can definitely be done!
Post # 8
@bookworm88: I’m not really wanting a debate, but maybe just some other point of view which might explain why my mom looked at me like I had a penis growing out of my forehead :/
@happyface: I’m completely open to the idea that I might have to be flexible to what my individual situation calls for. It must have been so difficult to go through all that and still have to have a c-section. I’m glad it worked out for you though!!
@SweetDeeReynolds: We do have a birthing center at the hospital, but they don’t do water births. They do, however, have tubs available more for pain management than for actual birthing. I get to do a tour as well, and I think that will help ease some of my fears.
I have a Nurse Pracitioner Midwife, so she will be there throughout the process, and if at any point I develop a complication or have any sort of high risk situation, they refer me to the obstetrician.
Post # 9
Sounds to me like you have the best possible attitude– you have a pretty good idea of what you want, and you realize that it might not go according to plan. I am pretty much the same as you– I’d prefer to have as few interventions as possible, but I’m glad the option is there if anything happens.
In the US, I think our moms’ generation tended to have a more standard medicated birth, the same way a lot of us weren’t breastfed because our moms were told it wasn’t better. Only you know what is right for you.
Post # 10
@TwoCityBride: LOL, yeah I hope my mom comes around.
@foodnerd81: I think that is a good point- I was born in the early 80s, and as far as I know they kind of automatically do the epi thing.
@MARIE901: I plan on listening to my body and making any decisions from there. <–exactly 🙂
Post # 11
A natural unmedicated birth is ALWAYS better. It was all the rage when I had my daughter and to tell you the truth, only transition (between 8 and 10 cm) was really painful. That being said, sh*t happens and sometimes pain meds are wonderful things.
Post # 12
Don’t worry about it! I think our moms were hit over the head with the epidural stick -probably the way that their moms hit THEM over the head about how painful childbirth is.
No question, our bodies are designed to do this. That said, a lot of women also used to die in childbirth (not from pain mind you, but I just think we shouldn’t completely eschew medical advances). I’m taking what I’m calling the “naturally practical” approach. I’m planning to do all the classes, read the books, attempt a totally natural birth BUT it will be in a hospital with a doctor and if I scream for an epidural I’m damn well getting an epidural.
That said, I’m MORE nervous about not feeling the lower half of my body and not being able to get up and walk around than I am about the pain of childbirth. At least at the moment.
Post # 13
@DaneLady: I think it’s awesome that you are making an educated decision to do what you feel is best for yourself, but also keeping your options open just in case you legitimately need medical intervention. The attitude of “this is what I’m shooting for, but we’ll deviate from that plan if we need to,” is a good one to have because you won’t set yourself up for disappointment in your experience. Whenever I get PG I am 100% in favor of doing a med/intervention free birth, but I also know that things can changed just based on how your labor progresses. I don’t think you’re crazy at all.
I’ll bring the granola.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s for me but you’re not crazy. More power to you. I am a wuss about pain! 🙂
Post # 15
NO you are definetly NOT crazy! I had my daughter last year and did it au-natural. It was not a walk in the park but I made it through. They do not call it labor for nothing lol. One thing that worked for me was telling the nurses to stop coming in the room and asking if I wanted an epidural and it would take the pain away. I said I know where you are and if I need it I will call you. My daughter came out healthy and eyes wide open lol. Go for it you can do it
Post # 16
@iRun2004: I definitely don’t want to be hit in the head with an epidural stick! You crack me up girl- how have you been feeling?
@MrsCarnival: Mmmmm granola 🙂 LOL!