- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
And I hope they do! It isn’t official or even really being discussed out in the open yet, plus it’s a very long process, but my mom and I were talking about it last night and I began thinking of how it may affect others.
I am just concerned that my brothers may react negatively and I’m concerned that my parents are a bit older. I know it’s not in my control but I just wanted to express/share it.
My family has already adopted my youngest sister (who is 7.5 right now) and so we’ve already had to adapt to that huge change. It’s been hardest for my youngest brother who was “the baby” for almost 12 years.
Quick rundown: I am the oldest (21) then I have a brother who is 17 (almost 18) another brother who is 15 and my little sister who is 7.5. <– Yes, she still insists you say the half. haha! My parents would adopt another little girl slightly younger than my sister (maybe 6 or 7, by the time paperwork went through?), and from the same country of origin, and with special needs also. (Sister has spina biffeda and neurofibromatosis, though you honestly can’t “tell” from the outside, other than her scar and her balance, etc.) Oh, and my mom is 43 and step-dad just turned 49.
My mom is one of the most equipped people I have ever known for adoption – she is adopted herself, she has worked in social work, has her PhD and is a school counselor. She also does foster/adoption work on the side (mainly writing the studies for potential placements.) She knows the system in and out, knows a lot about the adoption issues. They really feel like my little sister could use another child her own age, because I am SO much older (15 years basically) and my brothers are teenage boys, off in their own world, so essentially little sister is like my neice and is an “only child.” They really feel like it would be best for her and I agree.
I feel like this would be great! She deserves a little sister and our family has the means and the love to do this. I just worry my youngest brother will feel even MORE left out than he does – in reality he is not, but I think part of him felt replaced and he hasn’t dealt with it well. Also, his best friend (my oldest brother) is leaving for college next year. I’m just a bit concerned that he would feel like they are trying to take on too much or that he was somehow missing out. Matter of fact, I think both boys may have an issue with it.
Does anyone have any experience/advice with this? Is there anything at all that will get through to them? I know my parents have lightly discussed it with them and how they wish for my sister to have that sibling bond my brothers have but I don’t think they’re ready to see it that way. I really wish they did, because I think it would be a good thing for everyone.
I know this doesn’t make a lot of sense, but I wanted to post. 🙂