(Closed) so my SIL (who is a bridesmaid) is skipping my big shower. VENT!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Bummer, but you’ll have fun anyway.  No need in letting other peoples strange behavior ruin your time 🙂

Post # 4
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

omg i feel your pain!!! my fsil (also is a bm) and fmil skipped mine, and neither one even sent a card, and my fmil never even rsvp’d. in laws can suck, that’s all i can offer to you!

Post # 5
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Not a single person from my hubs family attended my shower.  I didn’t care.  It was a great time to have fun with my BM’s (most of them) and my family.

Post # 6
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s annying. At least they’re throwing you a separate shower! My IL’s are doing the same for me, but it’s b/c they live in MI and my ‘real’ shower will be in PA. So obviously all of the MI family won’t be able to make the PA shower. Maybe it has something to do with that!

Post # 7
2641 posts
Sugar bee

Honestly, I don’t see it as a huge deal.  Sure it would be nice if they let you know nicely, or decided on a second shower earlier.  But brides have separate showers all the time.  And often for this (or similar) reasons.  Three hours away is kind of a crazy distance.  It’s far to just drive to and back in one day, but doesn’t seem far enough to stay overnight.  IDK. 

They’re throwing you another shower.  I think that probably means, they are trying to do the right thing, and not trying to be hurtful.  Besides, you’ll probably get more of your FI’s family to attend that way too.  That might have played into their decision too.

Post # 8
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I don’t see it as a huge deal either, but I don’t totally get why showers are so important.  Plus they are throwing you an additional shower…seems like enough to me! I think a 3 hour drive to go to a shower is a lot to expect.  For a wedding, sure, a shower, probably not.

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