(Closed) So newlywed bees..does it seem like everyone around you is pregnant!?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@FutureMrs86:  I swear I could have written this post! 🙂  Seriously, no joke.  Everyone is having babies seemingly months within getting married, and well, Darling Husband and I are celebrating 2 years in September, and we’re just now thinking about it. I knew I wanted to take my time, but I never really had any idea the confusion that peer pressure would have on me!

Post # 4
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I guess most of my married friends are a little younger, cause I haven’t seen any pregnancies recently. It does seem like the whole world is getting engaged now though, lol. It’ll be interesting to see what my Facebook news feed looks like a few years from now. 

Good thing, cause Darling Husband and I want to wait at LEAST 4-5 years before we start TTC. Baby fever now would just be torture!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have three pregnant friends right now and my Maid/Matron of Honor just told me one of her bridesmaids is pregnant, lol.  I’m her Maid/Matron of Honor so now I gotta revamp the bachelorette party plans to accomodate the other girl because I don’t want her left out!  But yes.  Everyone is pregnant and everyone is looking at me like why aren’t you pregnant?!  I keep popping birth control pills until the time is right but I want a baby so bad.  Hubby is a little younger than me (he’ll be 24 next month) and I’ll be 25 in June.  25, to me, was my dream age to have a baby by lol.  Anyone else have a dream age?  I always envisioned myself married before 25 (check) and pregnant when I’m 25-26ish.  I’d prefer to be no older than 26 when we have our first child but I’ll take what I can get obviously XD.  I’ve been on the pill for awhile too and last time I went to the gyno they told me 6 months prior to trying to get pregnant to stop the pill so it would get out of my system.  I know people who have gone off it and BAM pregnant and others that took awhile longer.  It’s scary not knowing how long it could take….especially when you’ve always wanted to be a mom.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@FutureMrs86:  Yep, I know what you mean! And it has made my baby fever awful. Seriously, just look at my posting history, LOL. It doesn’t help that one of my good friends just had a baby girl, my sister is about to have her baby in a couple of weeks, so I know that this feeling won’t be going away. I’ve actually been googling ways to stop thinking about having babies, lol. It also doesn’t help that my Darling Husband says he would be happy if it happened, so we don’t use BC, but we do use other methods. He won’t say that he’s ready to start trying yet, so it’s kind of torture for me. I’m really trying to get my mind off of it, but nothing is working yet. How does your Darling Husband feel about waiting?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Everyone is pregnant right now, lol. Darling Husband and I are going to wait until after summer, but he has definitely made sure I know that he would welcome the idea or ttc sooner. He has a lot of facebook friends that just had babies, and I have a lot of facebook friends that are pregnant. It’s hard not to feel the pressure, and it is hard not to feel a little left out, but our time will come when it is right for us.

 

Post # 8
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1564 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It seems like it because everyone I know is pregnant or just had a kid. I think there is one couple we are friends with that don’t have kids yet and aren’t pregnant. I posted this on another board but for fun, I went through my Facebook friends to see how many are pregnant and I had to stop counting at 20 because it was ridiculous.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

My husband and I have followed a pretty traditional path, even though we’re no where near traditional people. Sometimes, I just want an oops! We agreed we’d start TTC once we buy a house, which is in the next 1-2 years (depending on if I start a new job in the next 6 months). We both want to be “prepared,” but when I look around, all those folks who have kids or are pregnant certainly weren’t “prepared.” We have a new niece born to my BIL- the mom had a restraining order against him at one point, they already have one kid, not a stable relationship, just moved out of FIL’s house (This is great!), can’t really pay to support the first kid, etc. But everyone is just so damn happy about that second kid anyway. Sorry, end rant.

My point is that I feel like we’ve waited long enough. I’m happy for all these other people, and I know it’ll be my turn sometime, but I want it to be my turn soon.

And the fact is that we’re waiting so we can move to a place with a lower cost of living so I can stay at home– so I should really quit my bitching. haha

Post # 10
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2463 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

actually not that many of our friends are pregnant or even married, and we’ve been married for 2 1/2 years now! we aren’t even that young: 29 and 30, but our social circle is mostly urban so marriage and kids tend to come later. out of our bridal party of 14 people, the only married w kids are my bro and sil, and then another 4 are married or engaged (though there are another 4 who’ve been in the same long term relationships who sort of expect to be getting engaged soon as well). a few of our other friends have kids, but we’ll still be among the first to have babies, even though we haven’t started trying quite yet.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@FutureMrs86:  I know the feeling. My Darling Husband is the same way, that he would be happy if it happened, but he always mentions that we haven’t even been married a year yet. So he is pretty on the fence with it. It can be torture!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@FutureMrs86:  I think that’s really the best thing to do, soak in all of the things you get to do as a couple. While it doesn’t make it go away, it does make it easier. I’ve been trying to make somewhat of a bucket list to do before we TTC, as well as saving up more money for when it does happen. I’ll be 25 in June, Darling Husband turns 30 just 4 days before my birthday. So I feel like the time is getting near!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m in the same boat as you ladies….there are like 7 people close to us pregnant or who have just had a baby.  Up until last month, we were thinking of waiting another 6-8 months, and making a big move (with a career change) before TTC.  And now plans have changed and *hopefully* we’re pregnant right now too (eeek!), but won’t know for a week or so. 

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