(Closed) So now that I’m engaged……

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yah I was surprised how many details people expected me to have decided an hour after we got engaged. 

The line that worked for me was “We’re just enjoying being engaged right now”. People thought it was a really cute sentiment and stopped the wedding planning interrogations. 

Post # 4
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

oh and congratulations!

Post # 5
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Congratulations! And thanks for posting this because it makes me feel more “prepared” than “obsessive” 🙂

Post # 6
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What @aberry said! I am starting to feel obsessive even though I’ve only really done lots and lots of mental planning….

Post # 7
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

ITA with @aberry and @tinytina…we’ve gotten a lot taken care of, and hopefully will book next week! 

I’m sure everything will fall into place for you…take care and CONGRATS, again!!

Post # 8
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m actually really glad I didn’t plan anything in advance. 

Yes we got bombarded with questions when we got engaged, but we just responded like you guys did, We don’t know right now, we are enjoying being engaged. 

I think the only reason it would be helpful to plan in advance would be if you are planning a REALLY short (less than 3 months away) wedding.  Otherwise, you have plenty of time!

Post # 9
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The only thing we’d planned ahead of time was a tenative timeline (which I thought was helpful, even though it changed a bit as we started planning) and usually when someone gets engaged I’ll ask if they’ve talked about dates yet :-). But as for the other details, I don’t think you necessarily have to have them figured out. Just say so 🙂

Post # 10
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hahahah TOTALLY agree – my parents asked us 10 mins after we got engaged when we are getting married. I was like “MOM. IT’S BEEN 10 MINUTES”. An hour later someone asked where we are registered.

Post # 11
2 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

congrats! everything will fall into place, you´ll see 🙂

Post # 12
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011


I have started tentatively mentally planning, getting an idea of what I like, etc. My boyfriend sees me doing it and I’m like “do you think it’s bad I am doing this before we are even engaged”? And he’s like “not bad…but weird…we’re not getting married for awhile” (um….thanks.). I tell him though (bc I don’t think boys realize this and he has said before he doesn’t want a super long engagement) that weddings take at LEAST a good year to plan, so I am just getting started a little early!

I just don’t want to jinx myself. I was in a major planning phase/bridal magazine buying phase about a year and a half ago. Then I realized things with BF were going no where fast and put all the stuff in a box in the back of my closet for awhile. But lately I’ve been getting into planning mode again and want to break it out….but I’m scared I will do all this planning and then be left with no wedding and no fiance, sigh!

Post # 13
2689 posts
Sugar bee

I tentatively plan because our venue will book up quickly. I’m worried as heck we won’t get the month we want. We had one specific date, but I told him we need 2 open months because this place is hot. I’m so dang worried, but I probably don’t need to be.

Post # 14
20 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

As a guy, I was blown away by how many questions like this are asked.  I still wouldn’t have wanted her to plan before hand and then tell me all these details.  Or I would have left so fast. 

Post # 15
5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh my gosh, we got engaged on a Friday, and when I went back to work on Monday people expected that I knew all sorts of answers.

Post # 16
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

hehe oh I feel for you! My best friends been engaged now for AGES and is getting married next year, but they had a long engagement because they were living overeas. The second they got back in the country, her Future Mother-In-Law started pestering her “what are your colours going to be?” when they hadnt picked a date or venue yet! Even now she hasnt picked a theme or colour, because she just doesnt care about that and the Future Mother-In-Law asks her every single time and it drives her nuts!

I have my ideal wedding in my mind but I try not to plan too much because I am worried my boyfriend will have a different idea… even on colours!

Good luck with all the planning!

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