(Closed) So originally….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Had you already sent out invitations when you postponed the original wedding? Technically speaking, etiquette says that if you had already invited them, you still have to.

Are you hoping to get married soon, or in 2015? If that latter, a LOT could change in four years 🙂

Post # 5
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe you could invite only immediate family to the wedding itself, and then invite everyone to the reception (but call it a celebration of the marriage of Mr. and Mrs. x instead of a reception).

Post # 7
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3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We got married at the courthouse with my best friend, her hubby, and our immediate family ONLY, then had a reception the next day with the people who were at the ceremony + some other friends + the rest of my family (which is small). No one was offended that they weren’t invited to the ceremony! However, your situation does change if you’ve already sent invitations. Anyone who got the invite, regardless of a retraction, should probably be invited to the reception, however small.

Post # 8
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3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We got married in a small family (+ 1 or 2 extremely close family friends) ceremony on a Friday and then had a reception with all our friends and family the next day.  While a few people mentioned that they would have liked to have come to the ceremony, no one was offended by it.  🙂

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I think this is a really good idea. Calling it “a celebration of the marriage” instead of a “reception” seems to take a bit of the pressure off. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think if that’s what you’ve got your hearts set on, then it’s just a matter of making it happen. 🙂 It sounds like you’re still planning to take care of those who you had invited, so you should be okay!

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