Post # 1
I always thought of having a big bridal party would be super fun.
My Maid/Matron of Honor my best friend has done everything with me trying on dresses , bridal shows, wedding planning, etc…
My 2ND Maid/Matron of Honor my sis – hasen’t done anything
My fsil- shes helped me with my save the dates but keeps canceling on me for dress looking for bms
My other fsil… i just asked her so so far nothing has happend.
and my close friend… she talks to me a lot about my wedding but she dosen’t want to try on dresses till April/May so she can loose as much weight as possible. She has also cxld on Bridesmaid or Best Man party get together numerous times.
Im so fed up with trying to accomidate people. Sometimes i wonder maybe i should just drop my bridal party and just have my Maid/Matron of Honor bff only.
I feel so dissapointed.
Post # 3
Oh I’m sorry you’re disappointed. It sounds like you had big expectations for them. It sucks that they’re letting you down. If it helps at all, my bridesmaids aren’t doing a gosh darn thing for me either! But I didn’t expect much, so I can’t say that I care or am very disappointed about their lack of participation. They bought their dresses—and they have to show up! That’s about it! I lean on you bees for support.
Post # 4
I just went through this. My sister is the least helpful of my 5 bridesmaids. Amazing right? Especially since I did so much for hers.I had to just pick the dress for my BM’s and told them .. this is the dress .. tell me which size fits you .. I purchased and ordered everything yesterday. Today my sister is telling me maybe I can order her a 6 instead of a 4 .. LOL!!! Amazing! I told her no .. it’s done .. so now she’s complaining. Too bad. Maybe if she ws more helpful the first time around .. she could have had it the way she wanted it .. you know? Make it easy on yourself. Take the guesswork out of it and tell them you’ve chosen a couple of styles and ask them which they like best. End of story. B2 and Mori Lee Bridesmaids are the most affordable dresses. Good luck!
Post # 5
I’ve come to realize that no one cares about your wedding like you do, no way no how! You really can’t rely on anyone but yourself and your fiance! I think that is a huge source of stress for every bride!
Post # 6
Hang in there. I don’t think things sound too bad. Sounds like the big issue is trying on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. I would point out ot your one Bridesmaid or Best Man that you want to get all your ducks in a row and look for dresses now. (Who knows how long it will take to finally order them?) And that most salons want you to order I think 5+ months (?) in advance. So her plan of waiting until April to look, isn’t the best. Maybe suggest that she just go to give her opinion, and someone else can do the modeling. Also point out that she can always have her dress taken in, to adjust to the weight she will lose.
As for Future Sister-In-Law, I would basically contact them all to find a convenient time/day to try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. If you fail to get some responses, I would contact them again, to say you if you want to have an opinion on the dress, you’re going to need to be there. (Hopefully that will light a fire.) Then if you don’t hear from them, let them know you’ll be going on without them and will let them know the dress you pick.
They’ll either have to learn to pick up the pace, or drop out of the race.
Post # 7
That sux. I’m sorry you feel bad. Talk to them about how your feeling. They don’t know unless you tell them.
Post # 8
Is there anyone else that can get all your Bridesmaid or Best Man together. Maybe there is someone that they would be more inclined to listen to like your mother or future mother-in-law. I sometimes have to do this for my daughters wedding just because it is a little harder for the girls to say no to me.