(Closed) So over this wedding… what do I do?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Take a break.  If your major things are done,  you don’t have to worry about anything for a while.  Don’t read any wedding stuff, don’t do any planning, and just have fun being engaged for a while.  THen in a couple month or so, you may well be able to think about wedding stuff again.  I think a lot of brides hit this wall.

And if you still aren’t in to wedding planning, no biggie.  You’ve got a venue and and a Fiance….you don’t really NEED a lot of the other details.

Seriously….back away from the weddingbee.

Post # 4
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1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

You need to take a break from the wedding stuff. You’ve got 7 months left, take a week or two off and don’t do anything wedding related–you’re not going to get super behind on anything at this point.

I understand your stress on the guest list–that has happened to most of us. My guess is that your parents are adding people to the list if you don’t like these people. See what you can do to cut these people off of the list. What worked for us was telling our parents that we really just wanted to celebrate with the people that mattered the most to us and we didn’t want people there that we wouldn’t recognize in a grocery store. That helped us get a handful of people off of the list.

When making wedding decisions I always think “is this us?” and if its not, we don’t do it. End of story. It’s our wedding, and even though its a little larger than we had hoped for, everything IN the wedding is going to be US. It’s caused a little conflict with our family, but you know what? I don’t care. It’s our wedding and there aren’t going to be things that don’t represent us in it.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 5
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3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Agreed…you need a break! Try to have a “Wedding free weekend” during which you and Fiance don’t talk about the wedding, look at wedding magazines, watch wedding shows, etc. I did this with my Fiance periodically during our engagement and it was amazing how much less stressed I felt when I wasn’t constantly in “wedding mode”. And also, try not to engulf yourself with wedding inspiration. Sites like stylemepretty and project wedding, etc can be helpful but they can also be really overwhelming!

Post # 6
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agreed!! Take a few weeks or month off from wedding planning.  make sure what you’ve planned is “you”.  Don’t just go through with it because you’re suppose to.  You don’t have to read wedding blogs if you dont’ want and you can have the wedding anyway that represents YOU.  Do what makes you happy!  Then start planning later fresh.  What about enlisting help – Maid/Matron of Honor, mother, friends, FI?

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