Post # 1
Recently (and by “recently” I mean “today”) SO came into a certain windfall of money. Enough to pay off his credit cards, and since I’m pretty low-key in general and don’t want anything fancy, probably a good ways if not all towards a ring.
That said, I think he’s more likely to use that money to pay down his other debts, but when we have talked our future in the past, he mentioned that he wouldn’t want to move toward ring purchasing until his CC debt was gone (which he expected to take about a year. It’s been three months). Even if he has to save up his money from here, he could probably do it in three months or less if he’s frugal (and doesn’t use *any* of his remaining money) or four-ish months if he’s not. This is a lot sooner than the Christmas deadline that I’d imagined and I’m wondering if I should adjust my expectations? Honestly, I’m not bothered if it still takes him a year to settle down, but if it’s coming sooner, i’d like a minute to get used to the idea.
What to do?
Post # 3
Don’t adjust your time line from what he previously told you. It all well could possibly happen sooner but don’t set yourself up for disappointment by readjusting the time line. Either way, I am excited for you, one step closer.
Post # 4
@armychica06: Yeah. I wouldn’t be overly upset if he sticks to his original timeline it gives me more time to pay down my student loans, but….I won’t say I don’t like surprises, but big, life-altering events are something I want to be emotionally prepared for (as much as you can be I suppose)
Although, the other thread about tax returns has me thinking. That’s even more money that I forgot to account for, and I will admit, that that realization made me more excited than I expected it to. Perhaps I should reevaluate.
Post # 5
@MissHobbit: laughing about your tax refund “revelation”!!!! I actually had to wait for my love to pay off his debt too, and that happened last summer, still took him 6 mos to buy it, and so far it’s been 3 waiting lol MEN!!! Just keep reminding yourself he LOVES you and it WILL happen eventually!!
Post # 6
I don’t think it would hurt to re-evaluate since you want to be prepared for it, but I would also keep in mind that he may just follow the original timeline so that you’re not disappointed if it doesn’t happen sooner. Plus you never know – something else might come up that requires money. But it sounds like you’re already prepared for that – so I guess continue to enjoy the excitement! It’s great news to be one step closer to financial freedom (and a ring)!