Post # 1
Fiance just shared a little gem of a story with me about his siblings. His sister and brother have been fighting for the past week over what Future Mother-In-Law and I thought was a mattress debacle. Turns out, they’re fighting because Future Sister-In-Law told Future Brother-In-Law that when Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law die, she’s inheriting all of their rental properties (she’s not). Future Brother-In-Law flipped his lid and started yelling that he was going to be the one to inherit the properties (he’s not).
I can’t believe these people! How are you going to be sitting around fighting over your parents’ properties, and plotting what you’re going to get when they die?! That’s so disgusting! I can’t even think about my parents’ deaths right now without tearing up… let alone start staking claims on their belongings. Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law are not elderly, btw. Hopefully their deaths won’t be for decades to come. So, it’s not like there is any reason to be contemplating this right now.
I have always said that the Future In-Laws better have an iron-clad will in place, because it’s not gonna be pretty when they actually are gone 🙁
Post # 3
All I can do is shake my head and say “ohhhh families”…. and advise you to stay as far from that argument as you can!
Post # 4
@takemyhand: Heck yes! I totally agree. Fiance doesn’t want anything to do with any of it. In fact, we’re sort of hoping that his parents leave their properties to some distant relative, or some other unassuming person, so that we can sit back and laugh at FSILs and Future Brother-In-Law. I just think it’s crazy how they’re already thinking this way. Like they just want to knock their parents out of the way to get to the money 🙁
Post # 5
Coming from a family that was essentially ripped apart over who got what when my grandparents died, this could become a serious issue. I agree that I hope your Future In-Laws have everything spelled out to the letter!
I would say don’t take sides in this one at all. In fact, don’t touch it with a 20 foot pole. I’d be tempted to warn FIL’s so they can smack some sense into their children, but I’m not sure how any parent could handle their kids bargaining who gets what long before they’re dead.
That said, my parents DO have an ironclad will and both my sister and I have a very good idea of how things will be split. They may have to step in here if they’re already aware this infighting is occurring.
Post # 6
@SapphireSun: Fiance told Future Father-In-Law about this argument he witnessed, so they are aware. They know the type of people their children are, so I’m sure (at least I really HOPE) they have a good will in place. I definitely wouldn’t barge into this issue. Fiance told his dad, so now it’s up to the Future In-Laws to get their affairs in order (if they haven’t already done so). It is such a shame that they’ve even got to worry about this kind of crap 🙁
Post # 7
Wooow, they sound like charms. I agree with PPs, stay faaar away from that crazy mess. Future In-Laws should pass the property on before they pass. What’s sold and signed is done, no will to argue over and Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law can cry all the way home. They sound just wretched.
Post # 8
Ugh. This makes me sad. It’s insane how materialistic & uncouth people can be. I guess I can’t say I’m glad that your future inlaws are aware of how pathetic their children are, but it’s definitely for the best, like you say, so they can make plans accordingly. I wouldn’t so much as leave bellybutton lint to such ungrateful-sounding offspring!
Like the others said, it’s best to stay out of it & focus on your wedding/relationship (and what a relief it is he didn’t turn out like his siblings), as I’m sure you’re far more gracious than them.