(Closed) So petty, but I can’t help it!

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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5766 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m not a bride,but yes…I remember all those things I got for my wedding and shower (a LONG time ago) where I felt slighted. I can even name them! lol We’ve always been generous with our gift giving and it does sting when others aren’t the same way.

Post # 4
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I know how you feel but what you have to understand that other people are not like you and your Fiance. What you do for others will not be returned to you but don’t change that’s what makes you special.  Good Luck on the job hunting and the upcoming wedding!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

That stings. Maybe this is just an engagement gift and you’ll still get a shower gift and wedding gift?

I always tend to spend too much on gifts cause I love to give and realized a long time ago that some of my friends are just not like me.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think I’d feel the same way.  No, I know I would!  You’re right, we’re not supposed to expect gifts, we’re not supposed to compare- but most of us do!  We just try not to let others know.  I think its really thoughtless of this couple to know how much you sacrificed to attend their wedding, only to give you a mediocre gift.  I think the only excusable reason would be that they recently hit some financial hardship…any chances of that?  Probably not huh?  That’s just crappy…

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hear you!

That does blow! =(

Maybe they are not as well of as you think they are?

OR they just fit the stereotype that rich people are cheap.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I know that for me, I always spend about $100 on wedding gifts, and most people I know do the same. Maybe your friends just thought that it was a perfectly respectable amount to pay. Or maybe, now that they’ve paid for their own wedding, they’re not as well off as you think?

Post # 10
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Yea, my username cracks my FI up as well.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I kind of understand where your coming from; but I also think $300 for a wedding gift is a little much. I think that $100 is plenty. That is actually more than we spend for wedding gifts enless they are CLOSE CLOSE Friends or Family. I also don’t think its okay to hold an amound against them because you think they are financially well off. I guess you chose your amount and they chose theirs. @ least you’ll know from now on.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I don’t think you’re being petty at all and I would be upset too. I think the only thing you can do is tone it down a little with your own gifts to people. $100 is a respectable amount for a couple (though just barely). Maybe they didn’t know yours cost so much?

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@ redherring  – are you sure it’s an early wedding present? Not an engagment present – or – did you guys juse create your registeries? One of my college roommates bought us something off our BB&B registry that we just made. She said she just wanted to be the 1st to buy something off the registry. Ya never know, they might bring an envelope the day of the wedding too.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

it sucks – but maybe they arent as well off as you think they are? i mean you never really know someone’s elses situation unless you go thru their checkbook ya know?

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