- 7 years ago
So bees, I would like some thoughts on this to see if you all think I’m crazy….
Quick background: Been together 4 years in May, SO says he thinks we’ll get married this Summer (but we are not engaged yet), SO and I want small private wedding (possibly family dinner included but maybe not)….
We are scheduled to leave for a vacation next Friday for a few days. It is a small get-a-away to a warmer climate but nothing extravagant and we haven’t spoken alot about details of the trip cuz we are pretty laid back about planning vacations. Unfortunately, my SO needed emergency surgery this week (not planned at all) and is now recovering. It’s been a hectic, stressful week. The doctor has “okay’d” us to still go on our trip, but SO was very bummed that this happened right before we went and exchanged secret words with the doctor’s office relating to our upcoming trip. My b-day is the week after our trip, and SO keeps saying he’s planned a b-day surprise and he’s worried his hand will be an issue. (I’m thinking kayaking or swimming with dolphins or something nature-oriented like that). I’ve tried explaining that we can post-pone our trip and that my b-day is really not that big of a deal, but he says he still wants to go on the trip.
I know he is very spontaneous, he knows I don’t want to plan a wedding, and we are very casual about making it official, so I am seriously wondering if he is planning to propose or possibly even suggest us eloping while on vacation and it has nothing to do with my b-day at all. I’m wondering if he made that up because he had to figure out a way to talk about it with the doctor (in front of me) without me realizing it’s a bigger deal than a b-day. I may be totally wrong here and it is only b-day related, but I keep wondering especially since a few months ago he told me that we would wait until after vacation to officially get engaged.
My SO is not a big planner, but he’s made statements about planning this for awhile now. If he really has planned something or if he is planning to make this engagement/wedding related, I will be very surprised and thrilled. I’m trying to not get my hopes up as to not get disappointed, but I just keep thinking about it. I can seriously see him wanting to get married while we there and us buying clothes, a bouquet, and wedding rings while we are there and getting married. He knows my “go-to” plan for eloping was always to head to our courthouse and yesterday I was telling him how some people think that’s tacky and it hurts my feelings. He responded, “I can tell you WE WON’T be getting married in the downtown courthouse.” How does he know that? 🙂
Thank you for letting me get this off my chest! One more week till we leave….