- 5 years ago
Yesterday SO dropped a bomb on me. He gave his notice at work and will be leaving his job in 30 days. This came totally out of the blue to me. I know we’re not married so it’s not like he HAS to tell me these things in advance, but I still feel like it wasn’t fair to wait this long to tell me. Now it feels like I have to just catch up and get on board and be supportive when really I’m just a frustrated, shocked and confused emotional roller coaster.
He promises this isn’t going to impact the timeline of our future, but I can’t help but feel that it will. We’ve only been out of school for a year, and in some ways it seems that he just threw away the last year of career. He was meeting all of his career goals. He had talked about how he was so excited and on the road to real success. He was going to be debt free in a year and he was number one in the office. And then he quit.
As of January he will be taking over the family business. I understand the desire to do that because he has visions for it to grow and further help his family, but the planner in me is freaking out a little lot. I’m the type of person who likes having a set schedule, where you go sit in a building Monday through Friday with a set salary and benefits. Being self employed is terrifying. Making that jump only a year after school seems a little impulsive with no financial cushion, and a $200,000 degree on the backburner. He doesn’t have a set estimate for what his income will be anymore and all of his benefits will have to be paid out of pocket.
I guess I’m just trying to figure out how we’re supposed to be moving forward when he just up-ended our plan in a way. It seems inevitable that our timeline is going to take a big hit from this.
Have any bees been through this? I’ve been praying for a supportive mindset, but I don’t deal well with change (clearly!) or uncertainty. We’ve already been together five years and counting…I don’t want to be waiting around for 5 more while he gets this in order. Selfish I know, and it’s horrible. Obviously I would never EVER leave him. I’m just really scared and in shock. And I hate waiting more than I have to.