(Closed) SO refuses to say "I love you" after almost 11 months

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Have a huge discussion with him about your future. There needs to be some kind of timeline set in place for you. That wouldn’t sit right with me.

Post # 48
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I definitely think actions speak louder than words, and your SO sounds like he does love you. It is important to communicate your needs, ’cause (as we can see from this post) everyone is so different and, if you need to hear it, you need to hear it…. 

My Fiance didn’t say he loved my until he propsed. It was awesome! I am usually the type to say it as I feel it (read: fast), but for some reason I waited too. I guess I wanted to hear him say it first.. We talked about it, although I was more curious than anything else, and he said he wanted me to feel his love and know his love before he said it. He wanted me to truly believe him. We both fell in love with each other right when we started dating. Eventually, it became an adorable game. We would say “I heart you” and “I more-than-like you.” When he proposed, and I realized what was happening, we cried in each other’s arms for about 10 minutes and he finally pulled out a tiny box and said “I love you… will you marry me?” and that was it. I can tell you, for me, it was worth the wait because I really did feel it. Now we say it all the time, but sometimes “I heart you” comes out too. 😉 I love my story now, but I can agree that, at first, it was weird until we talked about it. 

I think in previous relationships, for me, (and I don’t think you, or anyone else is this way based on your posts) I used the words as a crutch to try to create something that wasn’t really there… so the alternative was nice!

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