Post # 1
No matter what we choose to do for our wedding, my SO thinks that he should pay for everything himself, because we have both been married before. He does not want to take any help from either set of parents,…
I know we shouldn’t be expecting help and I wouldn’t ask for it,… but he is planning on refusing,…
I think if they want to give in unsolicited, then why can’t we take it if it’s a GIFT??
Post # 3
Host your own wedding and then if they give you a cheque, it truly will be a gift instead of helping to finance the wedding.
Post # 4
@gudjen: Just politely decline, and they will probably give you a generous wedding gift.
Post # 5
If your Fi feel uncofortable with this and wants to pay then I think it’s fine. Being that it’s a second wedding and perhaps his parents offered at his first I understand why he wouldn’t feel comfortable taking it.