Post # 1
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Helper bee
Last night Darling Husband had to take me to the ER as I was in Wal Mart and suddenly felt like I peed myself (I was at the checkout) so I drove home (5min away) & went to the washroom and there was blood everywhere, down my legs, soaked through my underwear and jeans so I cleaned up then when I looked in the toilet there was so much blood and clots (sorry if that’s TMI) so I called Darling Husband & my friend who suggested I call Tele-Health and after talking to the nurse for 1/2 hour she suggested I go to the ER.
They did blood work and a pregnancy test came back negatvie but they also examined me and the Dr thinks I could be a person who doesn’t show as pregnant right away but the long an short of it is that the Dr thinks I had an early term miscarriage.
I don’t know 100% (nor does the Dr) but I was having terrible cramping (still am) and awful bleeding and clooting (still happening).
I’m really sad because Darling Husband and I were unofficially trying for 17months to get pregnant and now that we’re married I’m going to start charting, temps, etc but the thought that I was pregnant and lost our baby makes me so sad, I don’t know how to deal with this.
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
((hugs))
My SIL had 2 miscarriages, in between 4 safely born healthy kids. I know it hurt – though I really can’t comprehend how much – so ((hugs)) again.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
Oh no, I’m so sorry that this happened to you. 🙁
I know a miscarriage is devastating, but I really hope that it isn’t something that poses a more serious threat to *your* health.
I don’t think you should give up trying to have a child. <3
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
@MrsN2Be: Oh no!!! *Hugs*
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is very hard to deal with and unless you have been through it people just can’t understand.
I had several miscarriages. My first pregnancy miscarried at almost 6 months. I still think about that sometimes and that was 20 years ago…however, the extreme emotions do subside.
Just so you know (and right now this won’t help but as time goes by it will…as least it did for me), 2 out of 10 pregnancies in healthy women end in miscarriage. My OB/GYN told me that they believe it is usually caused by a defect that would have made survival of the baby unlikely. The other thing is it generally does not have any effect on future pregnancies (and from your doctor’s response there seems no concern).
Let your body heal…and take some time to grieve…and whatever you do do NOT blame yourself. Lean on your SO but remember he may grieve too…let him. You will get through this…both of you!
ETA: I mentioned having several miscarriages but forgot to add that I also have three very healthy children as well.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Thanks ladies!!
@Luayne thanks for the info. I know Darling Husband is upset too and he’s hovering over me which is driving me nuts, I know he’s trying to make sure I’m ok. Physically I’m ok, I went to work yesterday (had some important meetings) and went home and crashed, I had some heavy bleeding & cramps yesterday and today bleeding is lighter and cramping is pretty much gone.
Is it normal to bleed for a few days after?
Post # 8
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Honey bee
****HUGS**** and lots of it! iam sorry to hear this happen to you. It must be an awful feeling. Don’t stop trying…this happens, unfotunately, to a lot of people. I do wish you a fast recovery !
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
I’m so sorry for your loss =(
Yes, it’s normal for you to bleed a little bit longer than you were to bleed during a regular period. If it lasts too much longer, they need to intervene medically…I’m so sorry!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@MrsN2Be: so sorry :(. I’m going through the same thing right now, I’m on my 4th day of bleeding and it’s starting to lighten now, still get sharp pains here and there though. I was 4weeks, 1 day pg for reference xx
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I’m on day #4 of bleeding and it’s starting to lighten now and crampling is less today, had some bad ones yesterday off and on.
Today I’m noticing that my back is VERY sore.
@almajele We didn’t know that I was expecting and the test still came up negative so the Dr suspects I was 3 weeks to 1 month along.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
So sorry. It is such a desperate feeling, especially since you didn’t even know you were pregnant. The best thing to remember is that there is nothing you did or did not do that caused this. Miscarriages are so common, especially with first pregnancies. For reference, when I miscarried I bled for a total of 9 days. It would vary from light to heavy. It’s normal to bleed for several days, as long as you are feeling physically okay and not faint or too weak. Wishing you all the best…
