Post # 1
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Busy bee
So Fiance and I relocated to Iowa about 6 months ago for my work. I made friends with a girl from work, but she is moving out of state in 2 weeks. We have no other friends here. All we do is go to work and to the gym, and I am not super fond of mixing work and friends, the one person here I am friends with was an exception to that rule. We sometimes hung out with a few couple friends of this girl from work. I found out today that they are all going to Chicago next weekend for one of the girl’s birthdays and that Fiance and I were the only ones not invited. I was invited by the girl I work with, but the birthday girl’s husband made it clear to me that I was not invited. I thought these people liked me. Now when the one girl who does moves, I will have no friends and will be stuck here for another 6 months at least 🙁 sorry for the pitty party, but I am just sad
Post # 3
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Helper bee
@missapis: I’m so sorry to hear that! Join something fun – like a book club, a running club, a something you like club. Reach out to people! Good luck!
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
Aww that sucks!! Sorry you are dealing with that!
Post # 6
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Busy bee
I have looked at meetup, but I don’t really feel drawn to any of the groups in my area. They are mostly parenting groups (I don’t have kids) or home bussiness groups. Thanks for the suggestions though
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
Oh no I’m sorry you feel this way. I know exactly how it feels. My man and I moved up North last year for work. We have lived here for an entire year and I have no real friends here. I’ve tried being friends with a couple of girls here, but since it’s a small town there is just too much drama that I don’t want to be apart of. It’s tough, but I just spend time with Fiance and his brother and I try to keep in touch with friends back home. Nothing beats a good relaxing night with some girlfriends and a glass of wine though 🙁
I second joining a club or group of some sort. Unfortunately the town I am in only has Church groups and mommy groups, so I’m out of luck there. If you are somewhere larger though you should look into something that follows your interests. You won’t know until you try it out!
Good luck 🙂 Things always turn around and I’m sure they will for you as well. I just do my best to keep my head up and chat with my girlfriends back home as much as possible.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
OH wow, how mean! I’m sorry that guy made you feel unwelcome. Well honestly, I’ve been ‘shut out’ of groups before and even though it stung at the time, I look back and realize I”m so much better off for it. Unless you’re a terrible person (which I doubt you are), no one should ever be shut out like that, what’s to say he won’t ever treat his ‘real’ friends with such disrespect? I think real friends are open and warm and inviting at least that’s what I’ve learned in my old age.
I say stick it out for real friends. Get involved with volunteering, join a book club. People you click with will come along and it will grow organically.
I find as I get older though and especially now that I’m married, friendships just aren’t the same as they used to be. I still love my friends like I always did, but I’m not as close with them anymore.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Boo 🙁 People suck sometimes. Sorry to hear your friend is moving away, that’s disappointing. I agree with the advice of a PP. DH and I are in a similar situation and I’m thinking about joining a soccer league, or some type of fitness class to meet some people. Maybe once spring rolls around there’ll be some new groups available/more active with the nicer weather? Its hard when work isn’t a good resource and you’re in that in between life stages kinda phase.
Hang in there 🙂
