(Closed) so sad about my weight :'(

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Unfortunately, only you can make yourself do this, no one else! You just have to make a plan and stick to it. The hard part is getting started, but once you get over that hurdle, it’ll get easier! 

Don’t buy junk food. Make a point to avoid the bed once you get up. You can do it! 🙂

Post # 4
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Aww I can empathize with this! Weight loss is hard and it’s hard to get and stay motivated until you see some results! Can you try strategies besides just telling yourself you will do it? For me, accountability worked wonders even just being accountable to myself! I got an app for my phone and recorded everything I ate, basically guilted myself into eating better. I have lost 40 lbs this year. I know it’s hard but you can do it!

Post # 5
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m in the same boat as you. I find it so hard to get motivated, and then stick with it. I’ve been on and off so many times in my life, and it’s frustrating beyond belief.

I can honestly say for myself though, the lack of motivation is due to the weight. When I eat poorly and stay sedentary, it’s that much harder to eat and exercise. Once I am in a pattern I’m good, but as soon as I binge on junk I feel like I’m running on fumes and struggle to even keep my eyes open.

Start small. Set a goal each week, and try your best to achieve it. Goals could be more water intake, cut sodas, increase veggies, walk 10 minutes……. etc.

Small goals are easier to attain. When all you see is a total number of pounds to lose, it can be daunting because you feel the stress of trying to achieve it. But focus on small loses, like the first 10%, or 10lbs or even 5lbs. Once you achieve that first loss it may help to motivate you to keep going. Good luck!!!

Post # 7
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You will do it when you’re truly ready.

I look in the mirror, see that I’m way too heavy but I’m normally not unhappy even though I need to lose this weight.

But, I’m ready now and have been working on it. 

Dont beat yourself up, it will make you feel worse.

Post # 9
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

To piggy back off of Future_Ms.Bostonceltics don’t focus on losing weight or how you look, focus on living healthier and feeling better.  When you’re out of shape and addicted to junk food it’s hard to remember what it feels like for your body to actually feel GOOD.  So each goal you set, like drinking more water, cutting out sodas, paying more attention to the ingredients, calories, sodium, and sugar in the packaged food you buy, or walking 10 minutes after dinner, should be with the intention of *feeling* better, cleaner, and less full of harmful stuff clogging up your bloodstream and getting in the way of you feeling your best.  Eventually you wiill start to notice a change in the way you feel, the way you look, AND the way you feel about how you look! 🙂

Post # 10
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This sounds trite, and I don’t mean it this way…

But, you’ll just know.  Just like you know when you like someone, you’ll know that your pants fitting too tight isn’t a mere annoyance but an issue.  

Youll know after working out and eating right that first week that you’re ready for your second week, then your third.  You’ll know that you have a weight issue that may take lifelong effort and tweaking to keep it under control.

I found out that I have gained 100 pounds since I got with my SO.  100 pounds.  When I saw that, I was committed.  Not in a hate myself, I’m disgusting, I’m crash dieting way…in a this cannot go on, I don’t feel good in my own skin and I deserve more way.  So now I’m eating better, exercising more and feeling good.  

Try not to look at it as X pounds to lose.  But, today you’out making an effort at dinner, tonight you’ll have fruit not ice cream, tomorrow you’ll choose yogurt instead of a croissant for breakfast.  Tiny consistent choices add up to big results.

If you want to chat, I’m here for you. 

Post # 11
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think embracing the fact that you don’t WANT to exercise, is key.

Once you know that you won’t ever actually want to go work out, that helps you force yourself to DO it, and keep doing it, regardless of the I-don’t-wanna feelings for the first 10 or 15 minutes (or the entire workout, on bad days).



Post # 12
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I know exactly how you feel it has taken me forever to find the drive to get off butt and do something, I started. I finally started by going for a short walk around my neieghborhood which wasn’t as short as I thought it was at the time. It is exactly 1 mile and half way through it my eyes were open to how out of shape I was.

After that first walk I was so upset with myself when I got home and I cried for 20 minutes in my livingroom floor. Afterwards I got up and started moving. It started with one walk a day, then 20minutes on a workout dvd every other day.

And so far I have lost 27lbs. It really does start with the very first step you take.

Remember you can do just push yourself.

Post # 14
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Adams_bee:  Trying not to pry.  Depending upon your weight, this could be be pretty standard.  

Why work out when there’s so much to lose, better not to than to let yourself down, right? What difference will it make if you’re a size 20 or a size 2? Your face so pretty, why does it matter if you’re a bit heavy? If you lose the weight and gain it back, you’ll be even more miserable.  What if you can’t do it? What if you don’t have the strength to keep going?  

Your mind and insecurity will fuck you over every.singe.time.  That doubt is easier to believe than the positive thought is.

Dare to be wrong, my friend.  Dare to believe in yourself.  Dare to love your body.  Dare to believe you’re gorgeous.  Dare to believe you’re capable.  Dare to believe you’re worth being happy.

ETA-I do not mean to equate looks with weight as I am heavy and stunning. 😉 I like being plus size, but not super size.


Post # 15
42 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

@axeyourmakeupkit:  100% agree. I heard comments from sisters and parents for years before actually realizing that I could do something about it. I’ve been working out for 1.5 years now, 2-3 times a week, 30 minutes at a time, missing some weeks (or months…), but it’s made a huge difference! And.. I still hate it. I have to force myself to the gym, force myself to not stop after I reach 10, or 15, or 20 or 25 minutes on the bikes. 

After losing 30-ish pounds (not really sure.. I avoid scales), buying clothes is fun again.

You can do it!!!

Post # 16
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t know if I am allowed to say this, but why not go on a diet pill? I am not saying you’ll lose tons of weight but if you go on the “green tea diet pill” it boosts your metabolism and your energy level, maybe that would help out? 

I am a full figured bride and my diet is horrible, I eat McDonalds at least once a week, and I LOVE Dominos pizza. I have the typical American diet so by no means I am trying to rub your face into anything like saying, “Well you could lose weight if you just tried.” I’ve tried tons of things just like you have and I have just realized that I am a plus sized woman so the world can back off and accept it. 

Just remember you will look beautiful no matter what weight you’re at. Plus size unite!

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