(Closed) so sad about my weight :'(

posted 9 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 32
6375 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Well, I’m not super sized, but I gained a whole bunch of weight since getting with Fiance (maybe 40-50 pounds). The problem is that when you’re skinny, it’s easy to stay that way. You look in the mirror each day and think “DAMN, THAT IS ONE HOT PIECE OF ASS… oh yeah… if I were a guy I would tap that… I would totally tap that… no cookies or chocolate for you, hot stuff… but there is a gym class with your name on it at 6pm”. Whenever you’re tempted to be naughty, you just think about how hot you are and you thiink twice.

Now, when I’m fat, and I see something tasty, I think “I want to eat that. But it will make me fatter… but I want it… you know what- **** it. I’m fat already, so I’ll just get fatter”. Likewise, with exercise classes, I think “I really don’t want to exercise, because I hate it and I also sweat like a fat person. **** it, already fat, one gym session won’t make a difference… I’ll just watch TV and drink beer instead”.

So yep. Just like you. You are not alone! Trying to lose weight totally sucks, right? Sympathising here! Why not try a free website like FitDay, where you have to enter all the food you eat? Just seeing the total calories can help you understand where the weight is coming from. Plus you don’t have to commit lots… just keep your total calorie intake lower than your output by a little bit (maybe 200 calories a day or so), so you don’t feel like you’re dieting to start with. Then when you start losing weight and start looking hotter then you will hve more of an incentive to try harder…

Post # 33
2865 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My advice is to start small. The easiest way for me to drop weight is to run for an hour three times a week, but I would have never been able to just do that. I started walking after dinner for 15 minutes after dinner on Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday. I walked for 5 more minutes a week and after a few months I was walking a hour! Then I started couch to 5k and walked the second half. Then I would push myself to run 5 minutes more each week. It took almost a year, but now I can run 7 miles in an hour. The point is, if I set my goal of running 7 miles when walking 15 minutes was tough, I’d never get therw. I needed baby steps.

Post # 34
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I just wanted to say today I was planning out my weight loss schedule and what i was going to do and eat & hopefully not quit this time. and reading this post was so motivational. thank you everyone for the kind words to the OP, your also helping me out too.

Post # 35
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Why don’t you post a little weight loss blog here. post a pic of your body only if you want to keep some privacy and state your height, weight and size, then check in every week with your stats. You would get lots of encouragement, accountability, and it might be fun πŸ™‚

Post # 37
2160 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@Adams_bee:  Don’t overlook that you’re helping us too… your post really got me thinking about my food issues~ a much needed nudge in the right direction.  πŸ™‚

Post # 38
1731 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Adams_bee:  I don’t know if I mentioned this last time but I have participated in the last three round of the beegist loser and that has been super encouraging for some reason.  Maybe you would like to try it out we are starting a new round this week.


I have never won a week but that’s not really my goal.  The beegist loser thread has just helped me get off my butt because I know there are a lot of other bees doing the same thing and I feel like I would be disapointing myself and the group if I didn’t at least try.

Post # 39
2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Adams_bee:  A lot of women gain weight in relationships, not because they feel like they don’t need to try anymore or have psychological issues with food, but for the simple reason that guys just eat a lot and when women are around them, women tend to eat more. And yes, many men do get annoyed if you go to a nice restaurant and order a salad. I have found that it helps to earmark a certain amount of meals to eat together and eat what you want for the most part, but to be very careful when you eat alone and save the calories there.

Post # 41
1410 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Adams_bee:  I’m not sure if waiting to “feel ready” is ever going to result in you working out. You’re a touch chick – I’ve seen your posts and I totally respect you for being opinionated. So I’m actually pretty surprised to see this post coming from you! The bottom line is, you just have to do it. What always works for me when I don’t feel like working out is simply putting on my gear and sneakers. If you’re just starting out, start small. Try for 30 minutes a day, even if it’s a 15 minute walk in the AM, and 15 in the PM. The absolute largest difference in fitness occurs between those who do NOTHING, and those who do 30 minutes a day! That’s it! So get out, do some walking, build up to a run 1 minute/walk 1 minute, and go from there! There are TONS of “Run a 5k” plans out there. And even if a 5k isnt your goal, it will at least get you on a beginner plan.

Another thing to consider – you get one body, just one life. That’s it. That’s all. No more. And your life is too short and your body too precious to allow yourself to become overweight, unhealthy, and experience a lower quality of life than otherwise possible. Overweight people put more stress on their bones, organs, and systems that is extremely detrimental. You need to love yourself enough to say “my body deserves the best I can give it.” That pep talk always gets me off the couch.

Now, go have some fun working out. You don’t have to run or do yoga or zumba. I am ADDICTED to kettlebells, because I need to sweat and grunt and be totally exhausted at the end. Hiking, pilates, kickboxing, martial arts, crossfit, cycling, rollerblading, horseback riding, tennis, rowing.. the possibilities are endless. Find something you love by trying EVERYTHING. Get a workout partner to hold each other accountable. You are worth it!

Finally – please, please, please avoid taking diet pills. You have NO idea what you’re putting in your body, or the long-term effects. Eat what makes sense – good, clean, fresh, whole foods can be so yummy. Just take some time to read up on nutrition, and make those healthy choices. Just don’t buy the bad stuff! I know, easier said than done, but I find that the crap food actually makes me feel sluggish after clean eating. And I am a food whore, trust me. I’ve just found alternatives that make me feel better and look better.

Food is the fuel for your body. Imagine having a Ferrari (which we all do, ladies!) and putting the cheap, dirty fuel into that beautiful v-12. You’re not going to run or function properly.

Bottom line – you deserve to live a happy, healthy life. You’re worth the effort you put in, so go get it girl!

Post # 42
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012


It is tough. I have been the same way lately. I blame in on my inactive job and the stress of the wedding, but really I am just lazy. I know I should exercise, but I don’t most of the time. Then when you get out of the habit it is hard to get better, especially if you don’t have anyone to do it with or to hold you accountable. I love my Fiance and he met me pretty much at the weight I am now, so he does like my body and this kind of keeps me in a comfortable place with my weight. Mostly I just want to be healthier and it would be nice to fit some of my old clothes instead of having to buy a whole new wardrobe.

You just have to tell yourself, no excuses! Look yourself in the mirror and don’t let yourself back down! No excuses! Have your Fiance help you keep motivated too. Maybe you guys can start just by taking a walk each day. Once you start exercising it is easier to keep going. But this is a good wake up for me too that I need to be better. Not just for the wedding but for my life. Maybe you can find a walking group in your area or something?

Post # 45
1410 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Adams_bee:  Awesome! Any running/fitness website will have it. I remember Fitness Magazine having a decent one that I think you can still get online… yep! Here it is!

Take that badass attitude and go for it!

Post # 46
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Adams_bee:  I understand where you’re coming from. I was this way for YEARS. I just didn’t want to put forth the effort, I was lazy, didn’t care. 

What’s been an inspiration for me is Reddit. There is a sub-reddit r/loseit and just seeing other people’s progress has been that big of an inspiration I decided to start counting my calories with My Fitness Pal. In the first month I lost almost 10 lbs, now I’m closing in on month 3 and I am down 21 lbs.

I REFUSED to give into weight loss surgery and a lifetime of medical problems. I want to be desirable for my future husband as well as in decent shape for my future kids, grandkids, nieces and nephews. Of course I eat basically what I want, as long as my daily calorie intake allows it.

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