(Closed) so sad about my weight :'(

posted 9 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Plan meals

Workout everyday continuously – after a month, if you DON’T go, it will feel weird. 

Drink tons of water.

Keep 100 calorie snack packets at your desk.

Even if you go for a walk around the block after dinner, you’re still moving.

 

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Definitely get on myfitnesspal..

A bunch of bees are on there, we can support you and you can keep yourself accountable fr food/exercise choices!

Im on hardcandyandi if you want to join up, or if anyone else does.

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I used to be overweight but lost 30+ pounds slowly over two years. I was so so sick of hating myself. I was sick of waking up in the night and feeling guilty. The guilt never went away but i didn’t do anything about it for quite awhile and hated myself for that. Some people embrace their curves, but I don’t think it’s healthy on me and I know that is not the way my body was supposed to be. i was fat, plain and simple. Not curvy, not voluptuous. Fat and overweight.

Then I decided I wasn’t going to be young forever. I wanted to be able to wear whatever I wanted, I wanted to look as good as I knew I could look, I wanted to be able to run and not feel puffed out and only I could make that happen. Slowly I started eating better, gave myself one “naughty” meal per week (pasta or something like that, not a whole pizza) I started working out 2 days per week, then 3 then 4. I learned different exercises and what worked for me and what didnt. I started really enjoying the way being ‘healthy’ made me feel.

Its amazing how good not feeling guilty feels. I don’t think enough emphasis is put on that point. That in itself is worth getting up and going to the gym. I feel amazing afterwards and I really do look so much healthier and cuter.

Oh yes, a major part of my weight loss was recording everything I put in my mouth on sparkpeople.com – it’s the best way to take control and become accountable for your bad (and good!) eating habits.

You can do it!! Start today!!! It can be hard at first but it gets easier, I promise!
 

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Adams_bee:  I am so bad too. being from Florida, my favorite is ” It’s just too hot! And I want to exercise outside because the gym is too boring.” So I end up not doing anything and I feel super guilty about it. I had a gym i loved that had tvs on each machine and it kept me from being bored because I think that is my biggest problem. But they closed it down. sadness.

I wish you the very best in all things! Including this.:)

Post # 51
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I know from experience, that you really do have to be ready to make the commitment.. kind of like being ready to get married. I have always stuggled with my weight and probably will for the rest of my life. Every day, it is about making good decisions and some days are easier than others. I have lost 65 pounds in the last 2 years with Weight Watchers. There have been a lot of ups and downs and it is hard. I have found this is the only program that works in real life for me without having to order food, take pills, etc. You are not alone in your struggle and I am sure you will be gorgeous on your wedding day, whatever size you are.

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I just thought of this:

Try remembering that the younger you are the easier it is to loose weight. So every month you put it off and every year that turns into, the harder it will get.

Also, if you want children it can be harder to conceive when overweight. Try to use that as some motivation.

I know that I said that I just felt “ready” but the problem with that is that I have no deadline. Unfortunately if the wedding is your goal (which I think is a great one) you need to start before you are ready. You may end up gaining after the wedding, which sucks, but at least the photos will be nice. To keep off the weight you may have to wait to be “ready”. So for now, focus on your wedding goal. 

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Everdeen:  I don’t think it has so much to do with age. I have lost weight at 20, 30, 40 and 48 and not seen any real difference. Motivation is the key and the older you are, the more things distracting you. I have always exercised so I need to do it by diet, working out doesn’t really help because I am used to it.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@nycsa:  

 As you age your metabolism slows, you can also lose strength, which means your endurance is lower therefore making long, effective workouts more difficult to manage. Especially after menopause (which I realise is probably a long way off for most of us) it can be much, much harder to lose weight.

Sure, there are some lucky people who don’t experience this change, but for most the older you are the slower weight loss is. This also of course changes with just how big the changes you make to your diet and exercise are, what your actual weight is (it can be harder to lose those “last 5 kilos” in your 20s than to lose the “first 5” in your 30s, if that makes sense) etc. 

In the end though this phrase applies to everyone: a year from now you’ll wish you had started today! 

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Everdeen:  The simple trick here is to remain active and to keep making your workouts tougher as you age if you don’t want to lose strength. I managed 100 push ups (brutal program, it is online if anyone wants to try it) after 40 which I could not have done at 20 for the simple reason that I spent 8 weeks building up to it.  That being said, you can’t keep doing the same workouts year after year without making them more difficult or you will lose strength.

Post # 56
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Adams_bee:  I find that if I don’t have bad stuff in my house, I won’t eat it.

Cook a big, semi-healthy meal on Sunday to take to work for the week. That’s what we do.

I can’t eat salad or sandwiches for lunch and be full. I need a warm meal.

Find exercise you don’t hate. I won’t lie – all of it is a bit of effort, but it’s a heck of a lot easier for me to go swimming than it is to get my ass to the gym. I despise the gym.

Don’t get discouraged if you do eat everything in sight one day. Eat better the next. One day doesn’t make or break you.

 

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@canarydiamond:  I hate the gym too. The year that I went, I gained a lot of weight because I was going in the middle of the day and eating too much after my workout. I bought some equipment and work out at home at night. I can swim right now because it is still warm so that is what I do as long s I can (until about october)

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

There’s heaps of great advice on here and so much for you to try.

You know what? It’s also different for everyone what keeps them motivated. Some people love doing the same thing over and over again, other people need a different workout every day. Some people need a plan and a goal, others just like to do what they feel like. I am happy just to work out on my own every day as my de-stress time, but I have friends who cannot get motivated without a group (so they have a group of people who go to the gym together every lunchtime and they work out together, encourage each other etc).  I can have a block of chocolate in the house and just have a ‘taste’ after dinner, but my sister needs to not have any temptation in the house.  So I think part of it will be finding what works for you and motivates you.

A diet starts on a Monday right? The best advice is nike’s – just do it!  You have 15 minutes now?  Go for a walk!  Don’t think about it, just do it.  I am the worst procrastinator, so I just make myself do it as soon as I think about it and after a while it becomes second nature to think of it as actually an option.  Instead of catching up for coffee with my girlfriends, we schedule in long walks where we can chat while we walk together.  Exercise doesn’t have to be full on running til you puke, as long as you keep active you’re helping your body. 

And as PPs have suggested too, I’m a huge fan of having little goals.  Running 10km seemed like a giant goal for me, so I started with just aiming to get to 2 kms running, starting with intervals of running and walking (eg, 2 mins walk, 1 min run, etc) until I could run the whole 2km.  Then my next goal was to get to 5 km, using the same methd. Then 6km.  Then once I got to doing 6km it started to get really easy… suddenly I went straight from running a whole 6km to running 8km no problem.  I was so shocked and proud!  From there getting PAST 10km hardly took any time or additional effort at all!  I was running freaking marathons! 🙂  It did take like 6 months of training to get there but as someone who couldn’t run for 5 mins straight without panting and feeling like I was going to pass out, it was one of the biggest achievements of my life.  I think if I started out thinking my goal was 10km, I probably wouldn’t have gotten there.  But every single time I got on the treadmill I had a specific goal I wanted to achieve that day – whether it was going from 3 mins running to 4mins running or just maintaining yesterday’s pace.

Anyway, I went from being unfit to being a bit of a fitness fanatic so I could go on about this stuff forever (and don’t even get me started on diets!).  But just wanted to wish you good luck – cos I know you can do it!

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Adams_bee:  Well girl, you inspired me today.

I soooooo wanted to leave about 10minutes early from my workout.  But, I thought of you and this post and pushed.  Thank you for that.

I know you can do the same.

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