- 7 years ago
I am so emotional right now. Seriously this whole thing has just been very tiring for me.
Last week, I posted a post about a a dept my friend (and bridesmaid) have been working in is being laid off. I worked there before and that’s how we got to know eachother. She is also getting married next year in July.
After I got home from a visit back home, I figured I just wanted to chitchat with this friend. Let’s say we can call her S. We have been having this friendship going on for a few years. This girl just can’t get her head straight!! And it’s pissing me off!
After this girl got laid off, we started to talk about maybe trying to get her in to my dept, since they have good benefits and it’s a fun job. She said she was going to think about it. So I felt like ok. It’s her choice and what not. I have been trying to show my support for her, she in waiting for the proposal, planning her own wedding, saving money for it.. just being a friend, hanging out and having fun like friends should.I have only asked for help once, and that was a bout wedding dresses. That has been my worst fear, not finding THE dress.. and not having my HUBBY to be lol.
Well, for the past few days after the announcement, she has been a bit weird, and avoiding me at work, when we chat at work, she doesn’t reply me back..I know she is not busy at work, because there is nothing to do. I know this because they have been cutting down.. I did suspect cutbacks but not layoffs.. but seriously! This girl is blaming this work thing on me!!!
She hasn’t done that verbally but I know she is. It’s just too much for me!!! Today was the day that the beer that ran over (sorry for the description girls, don’t know any better description). After last week or lets say, the past month, I have been the one trying to contact her, via sms, visiting her desk, chatting with her. And I was a bit annoyed because she didn’t reply to my messages when I just walked passed her surfing the damn internet and looking bored!!
That was just so hurtful. So I asked her how the wedding planning went, and she just replied with I have everything in check, and sof orth. She did not elaborate, did not want to share her toughts. I asked her about work, she knows she is going to be laid off and besides that getting married.. but she is not putting any effort sending out any CV ‘s out there for others to see.. that’s her business, but it still annoys me.She said she was bored even, and wedding planning. I asked her just by random how the weddingplanning og.
Anyways, I have always thought that with bridesmaids, some kind of friendly support ( advice, and help appropriate). But this girl just made me feel so hurt. She basically placced it that SHE is planning her wedding, SHE knows what she wants, SHE knows what she wants.. In some ways I know what I want to, but it would sometimes be nice to have that friend to come along, or just to be a friend that enjoys your company.With everything that has happened, and her attitude, gave me second thoughts-
This is how it ended up:
Ah ok, then I understand that you are a bit busy.. it’s fun with planning.. but it’s still good to have that settled. But what I am concerned about is that maybe you won’t have time to be a bridesmaid… since you are getting married yourself.. I really would love to have you around and spend some time with me but I don’t want you to feel stressed about it
So may I ask what do you actually want?24/7 service? It’s all about your wedding but please do realize that ofcource others have their life still… I bet your sisters are there for you when you ask something and so on…. and so am I, but itäs your wedding and your desisions to make, why would you want someone to do those for you? or what you think you are missing now?
It’s ok. I want at least one of them. I don’t ask for 24/7 Service, just even a hello now and then would be nice.. so.. you are the only one that I feel I can talk about when it comes to the whole wedding thing. I asked you to be a bridesmaid because I care for you and want you there.. but we hardly talk about anything .. so.. well it feels a bit weird.
I don’t think it’s gonna get better even so.. that’s just how I feel
She is so full of crap. I have NEVER asked for anything.. just once. She is so full of shit!!
She knows my sisters have three kids each and DON’T HAVE time or effort even if they wanted it really bad to get away and spend time together. She was one of the only girlfriends I’ve had. It’s pissing me off because she says this with both sarkasm and irony. It feels like a slap in the face because I have been listening to her complaining about not getting any proposal, her bf does not want to participate…. I AM SO TIRED OF HER RIGHT NOW.. I just decided that maybe she shouldn’t be in my bridal at all.. if this is how she will act if I should ask her something and she’ll throw it back in my face… I’ld rather have her out of my wedding and stay close to my sisters, and plan with them instead..
Sorry bees, but I feel happy it’s okay to post here for opinions and help… I just wished my friend could be as understanding as I’ve been understanding to her and tried to be there for her… I am actually very hurt!!