Post # 1
I don’t know what to do. I went dress shopping today and felt very “eh” about every dress I tried on (over twenty!) I’ve been dress shopping about three-four times before today, and really havent found any dress I tried on that took my breath away. I had dresses before that were form fitting and they were pretty, but I just never fell in love.
My budget is 1500 MAX, and I made this explicitly clear to my consultant. She told me I would love a dress by a new designer they just brought in, and she was right! I cried and felt so beautiful in the dress, I had a hard time wanting to take it off.
Then, she told me that, sadly, the dress is eight hundred dollars over my budget. I was devastated. I asked if they could offer me a discount, and they said they could give me ten percent. That still leaves it 600 over my very tight budget.
Our total wedding budget is only $5,000 so there really hasn’t been much wiggle room as it is. We’ve already cut our guest list, and we have a caterer for $20/pp.
I just feel so heartbroken. I thought maybe it was just that I wouldn’t feel anything special with a dress, until I put that one on. I can’t get it out of my head and I don’t know what to do. Also, I tried looking for pre-owned ones, but because the designer is so new to the US, i haven’t been able to find any on any website.
Sorry for the rant, I’m just really bummed. 🙁
Post # 3
I’m very sorry, and I can see on your face how much you loved it. Would it make you feel any less sad if I told you I think you could do better for less money? It does swallow you up a little, and I’m not trying to be an asshole, but I think your ideal dress is still out there somewhere.
Post # 4
@Alexandria_Lyn: That sucks, but you should try to put things into perspective. You’ll be wearing this dress for a few hours. Figure out how to make another $600 and see if it’s really worth it to splurge on this dress. The consultant really shouldn’t have showed you this – I guess she was hoping you’d fall in love and go over budget like some brides do. We’ll always want things we can’t afford, unfortunately. I guess you just need to try and forget about it because it sounds like it may as well be $6,000 over your budget 🙁
Post # 5
@Taeyers: I agree, my first thought was actually “the bottom looks like toilet paper”… OP, I think you can find a nicer dress within your budget!
Post # 6
I feel like if you could take out a loan go for it! It might be tough now and while you are making the payments but you will look back at all your pictures and be happy. We went over budget on the honeymoon but I think it will be worth the struggle. Money comes and goes! The memories will last a lifetime!
Post # 7
Wow that is tough.. You look soooooo happy in it. Based on that alone I would say the extra $600 is absolutely worth it, but I don’t know your financial situation. Could you give up coffees or alcohol for a while to treat yourself to it? Otherwise, try to remember that there are a million other gorgeous dresses out there JUST as beautiful. You can find great ones at any budget, seriously.
Post # 8
@Alexandria_Lyn: That dress is insanely beautiful. I am working a second job (70+ hours a week to pay extra for my wedding, including my splurgey $4K Reem Acra dress). IMO, It has been worth every penny.
Post # 9
@Alexandria_Lyn: You need another option: Find a different dress that you love.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I’m mad at that consultant. That’s bullshit that they did that to you.
I KNOW you will find another dress thats cheaper ad that you love!
Post # 11
You should have 2 more options – find another dress or get a replica. Have you looked into Jasmine’s Bridal?
Post # 12
Another option would be to get the same dress, pre-owned. Do you know the designer and the style?
Post # 13
That is stunning! Did you ask if you could buy the sample? That’s what I did with my Paloma Blanca and I wound up paying $1152 for a $3k dress. If not, I would say try and find some wiggle room. That dress is absolutely stunning!!!!
Post # 14
Have you tried preownedweddingdresses.com ?
Post # 15
Have you thought about having it made by Jasmine’s?
If I had paid for my own dress that probably would have been my choice. It’s wrong that they did that to you!
Honestly, taking out a loan for a dress is a bit silly IMO. It is a dress, and while lovely, you’ll only wear it for a few hours. It’s not worth going into debt for! If you can’t do Jasmines and you really love it that much, I would takeanother part time job until you get the extra $600.
Post # 16
@clairebbbear: I tried to find it but because it’s such a new designer in the us, i’ve had no luck 🙁
I’m going to call tomorrow and ask. The sample was a size 12 and I’m a size 0 though, so I’m not sure how much it would help. Also, they just got the designer in last month, so I don’t know if they’d be willing to let go of the sample so soon.