Post # 1
Dilemma 1: it’s been a long hard summer and I am soo so sad. We are scheduled to be married on January 20, 2013, but have had a lot of financial hits this summer and now we are faced with changing our date. We were originally scheduled for october 18 of 2012 but changed it because of timing and death of fiance’s dad.
I sent out Save the Dates before we realized that finances weren’t going to cut it. So NOW, I have to somehow let people know that we are changing the date yet again.
Dilemma 2: This is not my first marriage and I am no spring chicken, but I just can’t let go of the idea of having a wedding. I LOVE weddings, and so planning and having mine is something that will make me happy, though my fiance’ could care less. Anyway, I am looking at pushing the date a year away which will give us time to get the finances together et al. However, I am having trouble deciding on the date. I have always wanted a Holiday wedding (Christmas) but I’m afraid that people won’t come because it is a family time. I’m thinking either..we could do it the Friday after Thanksgiving, a couple of weeks before Christmas or EVEN NEW YEAR’s EVE which is my latest idea. We never do anything on New Year’s Eve and how cool to start our new life together when the new year begins. I’m just not sure people will come on any of those days. Soooo….what would you suggest?
Post # 3
Sorry it’s been so hard lady, keep your chin up! And do what you wanna, people are either going to come or they aren’t, I know the holidays are a family time, maybe having a wedding to go to is just the ticket! I can only take the in laws in short bursts, so having a fun thing to go to without them might be the stress releiver people are looking for! New Year’s Eve is my preference, but then again, as a New Year’s Baby, it’s my all time favorite holiday!
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
My wedding was the Saturday before Thanksgiving last year, and I didn’t have any problems with people attending. Sure, a few folks griped a little– but they would have done that with any date! We actually love it… we get to make an anniversary week out of each Thanksgiving, with time off from work.
Remember that regardless of the day, your nearest and dearest will do all they can to attend and support you.
Post # 5
I personally would not attend a Christmas wedding. The Friday after Thanksgiving would be hard if you have a lot of out of town guests that have to travel (flights tend to be more expensive). We almost had a New Year’s wedding so out of the three that’s what I would chose.
Post # 6
I got married the Saturday after Thanksgiving also. I loved my wedding-but kind of wish I would have done a “Christmas” theme, because I love Christmas. I also think NYE would be fun-if it isn’t too expensive! lol!
Post # 7
I would go to the December 14th one if it was somewhat nearby (within a few hours). Will most people be around town or are they out of town guests?
I would also go to a New Years Eve one if it was nearby.
Post # 8
I vote for a few weeks before Christmas. Are most of your guests in town?
Post # 9
if i knew and loved you, id be at your wedding whenever it was, but i would probably be a little less happy about the post thanksgiving date…. between my family and FI’s there’s already so much to fit in!
dec 14 is ok, but also 10 days before christmas i am usually just realizing i need to buy gifts!
of all the choices, i think NYE would be the best if most of the folks youre going to invite would be down with a wedding as their big party. i know at my current place in life, some of my friends would be down but other are still big into going out on NYE.
some logistics to the NYE plan to consider:
-will you have a venue that will let your wedding last through midnight? lots of places we looked at, you had to be done by 11.
– would people have to travel? winter weddings are beautiful, but the weather could make it hard if most of your guests are Out of Town.
-what is your area of maryland like? would it be a NYE destination? would the prices of hotels be jacked up because it was a holiday? what about venue and food/catering costs since that is uch a big party time holiday?
Post # 10
I’d opt for a couple of weeks before Christmas. With both New Years and Thanksgiving being peak holiday travel periods, I would feel really bad knowing my friends and family faced super-high airfares and hotel bills. It’s also a lot harder to negotiate a room block around both of those major holidays, and to secure the venue for the event and any related events like a rehearsal dinner. It also seems like every Thanksgiving and New Years, at least one of the major airlines has a meltown and whilst I know you can’t control the airlines, I would still feel really terrible if one of my guests were unable to get home for an extra 4 days whilst Jetblue or whoever sorted their mess out.
2 weeks before Christmas tends to be a really dead time for business travelers, which means cheaper fares for your guests, plus it’s early enough that you’re not competing with the peak of office holiday parties for your venues.
But you may want to consider pushing it a little further back and taking advantage of the Presidents’ Day weekend, which tends to be one of the cheapest three-day weekends for travelers. Plus if you have already pushed it back to October and are pushing back again with a highlight on being able to better control the finances, I’m not confident that just 8-10 weeks more time will be able to make that big a change in your finances.
Post # 11
Fall is my favorite time of year, so I voted the Friday after Thanksgiving
Post # 12
I say no to black friday, no to 2 weeks before christmas and yes to New Years eve! *im biased thats my bday* LOL
Post # 13
NYE can be sooo much fun. Everyone is already getting together for a party anyway might as well have a wedding and dinner first then ring in the new year with all your near and dear. You can totally rock silver and red decor too and I absolutely love how elegant that looks!
Post # 15
I totally think a New Year’s Eve wedding would be AWESOME! Exciting!!!!! I am pushing my daughter for that date when she gets married!!
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Where are your guests located/are their families close by? Friday after Thanksgiving might be tough for some people, but the Saturday might work.
What about December 28th? It’s right in between Christmas and New Years, and you wouldn’t be dealing with the prices raised because it’s NYE.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I think the December date is your best bet– the day after thanksgiving is for shopping and hybernating in my opinion (depending on what floats your boat). And NYE is a frequent party date, so peopleare likely to already have plans– but the 14th is well enough before x-mas that you wont have people traveling yet, and often there’s not that much pre-christmas celebrations.