Post # 1
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Busy bee
All background info here.
My Maid/Matron of Honor decided to drop out of the wedding and I am trying to muster up some sort of feeling about it. I don’t know if I was so stressed and so upset about the situation that I just feel relieved or if I am just stuffing my feelings back so I don’t ruin the next two weeks or if I really don’t care. I can sit here and say I am angry, hurt, sad, but I just don’t feel it. Also, I am a crier and I haven’t cried yet. I just don’t get it, what is going on with me?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
HUGE ((((HUGS)))) I’m so sorry, I don’t even know what to say! I can’t believe she is so immature and uncaring that she would do this. But I will say this…if this is the kind of friend she was, you’re probably better off without her. She would have been a toxic presence on your wedding day, and you don’t need that. The question now is…what are you going to do next?
Post # 4
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Helper bee
first, congrats on the wedding coming up so soon! i am so excited for you!
after re-reading your last post about her proposed “compromise” to leave early and go “hang-out” with an ex-, i can’t help but think that this may be a giant relief – and that may be why youre not as upset as you would anticipate. i mean, now you dont have to worry about your Maid/Matron of Honor being moody or counting down the minutes until she leaves YOUR WEDDING – and now you dont have someone standing beside you who isn’t 100% into YOUR DAY.
frankly, although this was a selfish thing for her to do (especially with the wedding coming up in 2 short weeks), it may be the best possible situation – no one, especially a Maid/Matron of Honor, should be “compromising” or leaving such an important day
*hugs* and good luck on the 16th!
Post # 5
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Honey bee
Oh man, sorry to hear that. I think you probably haven’t reacted yet because you’re in shock. That might be a good thing. Regardless, enjoy the next few weeks.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
@ mrsmdphd- I kind of thought the same thing, maybe she just wasn’t the type of friend I thought her to be. We decided to move my sister up to Maid/Matron of Honor (since she basically was anyway, she threw my shower and has been around to help with everything) and I think we are going to have Fiance and his Bridesmaid or Best Man stand up in front before the processional starts and then all the Bridesmaid or Best Man will have one escort. At the reception FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man (and brother) is going to escort their Mom into the reception.
@ Lovebird- Thanks so much! It is so close I can’t even believe it! I think that is exactly why I’m not upset, my day is actually probably going to be better without her counting down until she can leave and worrying about it.
Thank you for the hugs and the kind words, I do feel a little better.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I had a lot of drama in the week before the wedding, and you SO don’t need that. You’ll be much happier that she isn’t around to poison your day. Don’t feel bad that you haven’t reacted about it yet; hopefully you won’t feel any need to (at least until after the wedding ;).
Post # 8
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Worker bee
hey sounds like your friend is struggling to get herself together. i mean why is she hanging out with this guy who has repeatedly hurt her anyway? seems like she’s a bit lost and her personal issues have gotten in the way of her being your friend. i don’t blame you that you’re coming up empty on emotions. whatever is going on with her doesn’t really have anything to do with you or your wedding – so not sure there’s much for you to feel about it. anyway that’s great that your sister has been such a great “MOH” in actions all along! i’m sure it will be a fantastic day 🙂
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
Oh honey, I am so sorry! This is probably the last thing you need right now but it sounds like you were able to find a good solution. I’m happy for you that your sister was able to step in and has been a good “unofficial MOH” for you! 🙂
I’m excited for you! You’re in the homestretch now! 🙂
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
I’m so glad you have your sis to stand by you the whole day :). Your wedding is sooo close!!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
So sorry to hear about the crappy friend, but I would have been relieved too!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
So sorry about this, but it probably does relieve a lot of stress. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Have a great day.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
Good for you for sticking up for yourself – I am a total crier too, but sometimes I think that as much as a situation might upset/disappoint me, I often feel better once I’ve dealt with something head on and feel like I escaped a bigger problem. You don’t need the drama and you will have an amazing day with the true people supporting you!! Enjoy your day!!!!