(Closed) so she declined to be my bridesmaid

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, at least you know now, ahead of time, right?  While I would be completely bummed too (as a Bridesmaid or Best Man of mine had to back out due to financial reasons), you do need to move on and let it go.  You even stated that above. 

It sounds like your aunt might have some life soul searching to do and it’s better she did it now, then had accepted and a few months prior told you.

Keep your chin up.

Post # 4
235 posts
Helper bee

I didn’t get that feeling at all, she seems very happy for you and declined because she doesn’t feel she’ll be able to be there for you like she’d want to. And you’re right, try and be positive and move on. Be happy she didn’t accept and then not be there for you how you would expect. 🙂

Post # 5
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hey, I totally agree with speulie. She sounds like she wants everything to go well with the wedding, and that she is happy for you. You could still include her with a reading or such. She cares enough to not sign up for a responsibility she may not be able to fully see through.

Post # 6
1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She seems like she is happy for you, it probably took her awhile to write that message to try to get the right wording which might be why you think she sounds distant/off.

Be happy that she respects you enough that she doesn’t want her own soul searching to effect your wedding negatively.

Post # 7
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

To me it seemed like a very genuine email that was honest and putting her concern for you before herself. This will be for the best!

Post # 8
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think she sounds very happy for you and is just being honest that she can’t make the commitment. One of my friends couldn’t be a bridesmaid for this exact reason, and it turns out she is starting a new job and has to be at work all week before the wedding and the day after (she lives too far away just to come for the day).

Post # 9
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I know you are sad but think of how sad you would be if a month before the wedding she told you she couldnt be a Bridesmaid or Best Man anymore. Its best to have known now and not later. I think you are on the right track think positive and enjoy the stuff to come!

Post # 11
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

To me she sounded very happy for you (although you know her best). I agree with pp that it is best for her to not commit if she isn’t sure. I’m sure she was honored to be asked though!

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