We’re kind of in the same boat. I work full time and am taking classes (done next Monday, woohoo!) and my husband has been looking for a job since he got out of the Army.
That being said, covering ALL the bills (which previously had been just me, but now that he’s home all day, electricity and gas skyrocketed, plus food bills) with him included took an adjustment. It takes a lot more than I thought it would to feed and house another person. He was spending a lot of his time job hunting and doing his laundry, but not really doing things for the house.
One night I got super frustrated and came home to a huge mess and him playing videogames. NOT ok. I told him it wasn’t fair for him to not only NOT be contributing, but to not help out. That if he was essentially going to be a housewife all day, he had to help out around the house. Now, I realize your husband DOES work, just doesn’t have an income yet…but talk to him about doing more of the household work. I don’t see why (unless you prefer to do 90% of the housework+cleaning) you should have to take on the cleaning AND the bringing home the bacon when you should be able to split the cleaning so you don’t feel like you are doing everything. Doing EVERYTHING breeds resentment. Been there, done that, got over it.
Since my husband has started making dinners, vacuuming, organizing, cleaning, etc. (i mean everything…except for the things I like to do, like i still cook, i clean the kitty’s room, and I do my own laundry and I organize my crap) it has taken a HUGE burden off my shoulders from being the sole provider of this house. Now i go, “yes, i may make all the money, BUT, i also come home to a tidy home” and i’m much more relaxed. Yes, things will change when he gets a job (and maybe when your Fiance has an income you can hire out some of the cleaning and stuff), but talk to him about going 50/50 on the household chores. Sure, he feels crappy, but he kinda has to get over it and stop sulking and start helping! Every time one of you hits a bind in your career, you can’t just mope. It’s much better to be proactive and help out in other ways. But until you speak up, he’ll be content to keep things the way they are. Heck, before, my husband thought I LIKED doing the cooking and cleaning (ya know, my way). I just kinda tell him now, “hey defrost some chicken” or “spaghetti would be good tonight” and I email him things to grab at the grocery store when he goes. He’s done a LOT of work around the house lately, too–drawing up our house plan, pricing out the hardwood floors, painting the kitchen, landscaping the backyard, etc.