Post # 1
Im getting super frustrated with TTC. Its been 4 months since we lost Charlie, I would have been due the 2nd or the 9th August which is only a week away. I have never had any problems falling pregnant before but some cycles i am not even ovulating 🙁 My luteal phase has dropped from 14 days to just 10 and is becoming shorter every month! My doctor wont do anything until its been a year of trying with no pregnancies at all which seems so far away 🙁
This month we BD during my fertile window and i did ovulate, my temps were high i had a dip at 8dpo which i got all excited about but then today (9dpo) it dropped even more. AF will likely show up today or tomorrow which sucks!! I have so many symptoms this month, metallic taste in the mouth, major sore boobs, darker areolas, headaches, cramps, cold like symptoms too all which i never get before AF even if i do ovulate! Still a BFN though today and unless i ‘just’ implanted and my body starts to produce some HCG then mAF is going to come and wash it all away anyway.
Sorry for the rant im just so annoyed with myself for thinking i wouldnt have any problems conceiving this time around. In total its been 5 years of TTC on and off since my son and in that time ive had 3 miscarriages and 4 chemical pregnancies! My body hates me!!
Post # 2
I’m so sorry that you are having such as rough time. It must be so anoying that your doctor wouldn’t do anything yet, especially wth your history.
Post # 3
Can you find a different doctor? One who is a little more agressive and a little more responsive.
Two quick questions– how old are you and is this the same father as your son? Both of those play into the equation of how quickly doctors will act.
Good luck! I am sure this is a really, really frustrating process for you!
Post # 4
bouncybee: Sending you lots of hugs. Sorry I don’t have any advice for you 🙁
Post # 5
i cant move to a different doctors surgery as its out of area and i dont drive, i already changed from one doc to another as the first insulted me massivly back in december (i posted about it on here, she told me i was irresponsible for getting pregnant whilst overweight and told me id be a terrible mother etc) my new doctor has been great up until now, he says i have to wait a year with no results before he can refer us for any further tests as most couples get pregnant within 6-12 months. I know its only been 4 months since i was actually pregnant but now that i have a treatment plan for my next pregnancy theres a 90% chance of carrying a full term healthy baby and i just want it now! Its long overdue!
My son has a different father but all my losses have happened with my husband. we have both had tests done to check chromasomes and his sperm mobility/shape etc and all normal. I have no scarring in the womb or tubes, my tubes are not blocked and up until my recent loss i ovulated every month.
We are not seen as ‘infertile’ or having any fertility problems except that i cant seem to carry a pregnancy. My doctor had a theory that i might just be ‘super fertile’ which sounds good but isnt he said that all my fertilized eggs implant whether they have problems or not so i see more losses than normal. I dont know how true that theory is and he says theres no test for it here in england anyway but to keep trying and hope we get a good egg. cheers doc.
Post # 6
oh and since my last pregnancy i lost a lot of weight so that isnt a factor anymore
Post # 7
bouncybee: So sorry you’re going through this. And that your doctor is unable to give you answers sooner. I don’t have a lot of advice but what about trying Vitamin B6 or B Complex to lengthen your LP? ::Hugs::
Post # 8
kate02121: thanks for the hugs i need them! I should have been with you guys all excited and ready to pop by now but instead im sat here crying for no blooming reason! I started taking a b complex vitamin along with my pre-natals and extra dosage folic acid to regualte my LP ive been taking it 3 months and nothing so far. Ive asked for progesterone ‘just in case’ i get a bfp but we dont do that here in the uk apparently unless i actually have been tested for progesterone problems which comes under the fertility stuff.
My bff just announced she was pregnant to me via text a few days ago too. shes almost 12 weeks and never even told me. Im happy for her but its like people are avoiding me because im that lady who had a stillborn/miscarriage. I feel like a freak!
Post # 9
bouncybee: I’m goin on 3.5 years of TTC, so I totally understand your frustration. (We are moving on to using an egg donor). But I wanted to pass on some advice to lengthen your lutenal phase–use progestrone. Many people use a cream you can buy at a health food store and rub into your skin. But my Fertility Nutritionist suggested this formula. I’ve been using it for a one month and I really like it
Also, make sure you are using whole milk (from grass-fed cows, if you can). When you take the fat out of the milk, it throws all the hormone profiles off.
Good Luck and Baby dust!
Post # 10
bouncybee: O gosh, please don’t feel like a freak! I bet she was just trying to be sensitive to you and it came out the wrong way :(. I’m sorry that happened, I can only imagine how hard it was.
I guess my advice really was unhelpful then, because it sounds like you are doing everything right for your body and fertility already. It also sounds like you are really well researched and doing everything you can so that when you do become pregnant again, that baby will have the best chance in the world.
And you aren’t crying for no reason – you’ve been through some really, really awful things. And are somehow managing to still have a great outlook pretty consistently. You’r perfectly entitled to a vent or a rant whenever you need one.
Post # 11
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bouncybee: You sre not a freak! Lots of women have sruggles TTC. I find that IRL most women just don’t talk about it. I bet other women you know IRL are struggling or have struggled too. There’s lots of us here too. I don’t have any suggestions, but I wanted to give my support and let you know that you’re not alone in feeling the way you do. My friends just pop out babies like wildfire and I’ve been TTC over a year, had 2 going on 3 surgeries and other treatments and have never even seen a + test. Also, I know that there’s at least 2-3 women on the 12+ months TTC thread struggling with multiple miscarriages. The thread isn’t just for those trying a long time, but those with medical issues TTC as well. I’d check it out. They might have some advice, or at least some support to make you feel less alone.