(Closed) SO slipping back into his unhealthy habits.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@definitelymaybe:  It has to be something he does for himself, otherwise it will cause resentment. I think his problem seems to be trying to change too much at one time, that’s almost always a recipe for failure. Diets are never healthy, once you stop the diet you gain back the weight because you go right back into your normal eating habits. Suggest he speak with a dietician or nutritionist and see what he can come up with to not deprive himself of his fave foods, but still manage to eat relatively healthy.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Yeah, I would say he needs to talk to a doctor and slowly change his diet.  Can you help him with grocery shopping? Maybe make a gym date once or twice a week?

It sounds however, that there is something else that is bothering him that is causing him to go back to his old habits – maybe try to find out if something is making him sad or annoying him.  Just don’t be obnoxious and push him to tell you.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Been through this myself and have learned, if they can’t motivate themselves you can’t do it for them.  Either he wants to or doesn’t, trying to change his mind will only stress both of you out.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@definitelymaybe:  No matter what type of diet one starts, a diet is a temporary thing, which means those changes will not stick. Even allowing the splurge on weekends means he has to ‘deprive’ himself of what he so clearly really wants 5 out of 7 days a week, that doesn’t sound enjoyable too me in the least.

No diet works permanently, unless true lifestyle changes occur after the diet. He will be better off making permanent lifestyle changes, and more then likely the easiest change he could make is eating proper portions. You say he eats out often, that means he’s more then likely eating well above proper portions and calories for his lifestyle. Restaurants are notorious for over-sized portions of food.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We compromised.  He hasn’t made any improvements to his diet, but he went to the doctor per my request and found out he has stage 1 hypertension.  My dad died of his fourth heart attack when I was 10, so Fiance knows heart issues are a sensitive topic for me.  He promised he’ll work with the doctor to do what it takes to get his blood pressure to a healthy level, whether it be through exercise, diet, or stress reduction.  If his stats are healthy, I’m not going to worry about the weight.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Definitely a slippery slope when it comes to partners and weight- so I would be very careful when approaching this. My Darling Husband also has IBS and fluctuating weight. The thing is, IBS can be so unpredictable that ” normal”  foods one week can irritate your system the next. When you find something that doesn’t make your stomach feel like it will explode, you tend to stick with it. This is what was the case with Darling Husband, he would find 3-4 foods that he knew were safe and would eat them constantly. It caused him to gain weight because they were very starchy.

Also, is he on any medication? That can also make the weight gain/loss seem more dramatic.

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