(Closed) So so so nervous.

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

1) ask them if there are strings attached– do you have to invite their friends? Or have at t heir church? Or if you do anything non traditional, will they withhold the money? If you think they might say one thing,but do another, get it in writing– this is a gift to be used towards your wedding that you may use as you see fit, we do not expect anything inreturn 

2)try to get the money up front, that way it’s not 2 weeks before your wedding and Oops, they don’t have it anymore 

3) if that doesn’t work, have them pay for something like flowers or your dress, but tell them howmuch that will cosT. Mostpeople don’t know that flowers can be $1000-$2000. 

Post # 4
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1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I hear you!  When people want to give you money for a wedding they usually feel that they have a say in how it is spent.  Just ask what is expected or if it’s for you to spend how you see fit.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

It’s never an easy conversation but make sure you know EXACTLY how much they’re contributing. Take them out to lunch or something and say “Thanks again for helping. How much is feasible to contribute?”

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