(Closed) SO social drinking = personality change = annoying

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hmmm I’m not sure. It’s unfortunate he’s not a “fun drunk” but many people aren’t, and that’s not something a person can really change. I think I am a kind of obnoxious drunk lol, but Fiance loves me anyway, and let’s me have my fun sometimes. I try now never to get too drunk to where I reach that point. If Fiance told me he didn’t want me to ever get drunk again because I annoyed him when j was drunk I’m not sure how I would feel. Probably somewhat hurt.

I’m sure your friends know his about your Fiance by now and aren’t surprised by it. And who cares what strangers think! So don’t be embarrassed. ๐Ÿ™‚

It sounds like your Fiance is really only doing the occasional drunken night out, so it’s not a bigger problem like alcoholism. I do think it’s reasonable to sometimes say “let’s not drink too much tonight” and see if he agrees. There’s no reason he should ever be drinking to the point of being blackout drunk, though. Otherwise you will just have to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you, and it sounds like it isnt, so I think unfortunately it’s just one of those things we are willing to live with because we love them.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@chillinchillin: If it really is just once a month that your husband acts like this and he enjoys it, I would let it go. Once a month is not a lot to sacrifice for your husband’s happiness and freedom, and who says you have to be with him when he gets wasted? Maybe you can make sure he has a drinking buddy that he can hang with, and go spend some timed doing something that you enjoy?

Post # 5
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Busy bee

This is going to sound bad, but when my SO drinks, he binge drinks. He works 6 days a week and will go out with the boys maybe once in a blue moon, but when they go… They go ALL out. His mates are still somewhat into party drugs, which thankfully SO has lost interest in, but I find it hard to be around them and him when they’re drunk. We’re in our mid twenties (I think his mates are actually closer to thirties) and the dumb shit I’ve seen them do just boggles my mind. if I know it’s going to be one of “those” nights, I don’t go and he knows why. 

 

A few times I’ve made sure we have early morning plans the next day so he limits what he drinks without thinking or I just flat out say WE have to pace ourselves. If you’ve discussed it with your SO and he knows how you feel then maybe next time try something like a budget or drink limit etc. If he still does it, film him acting like a pest and show it to him the next day? Maybe that will get him to stop drinking so much. 

 

Ps I really hate typing on an iPad cause it does really dumb autocorrects!!!

 

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