So, speaking of child-free weddings….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is one of those times I wished WB had a Like button.

Because I would SO be clicking that button!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is this real? Is this what parents really think when they’re invited to an “adults only” wedding?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

that is a horrible post

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This post is hilarious πŸ˜€

We briefly considered a kids-free wedding but we knew we’d have a ton of butthurt friends/family complaining at us/RSVPing “no” if we did. So we’re having kids at ours. I don’t mind kids at weddings, I think they are cute all dressed up and dancing, it’s just that I worked in a banquet hall in high school and I’ve seen a hundred kid-related problems that I would have really liked to avoid. Oh, well. At least they’ll liven up the reception πŸ™‚

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

haha too funny. I bet anything all those parents had “no kid weddings” too! But, now they’re parents so, “they get it” and  we don’t since we haven’t had kids yet! 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Soooo funny! 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Hilarious post BUT

I’m one of those brides that had kids at wedding. Should’ve kept it Adults Only…here is why.

1. One of my guests newborn was crying on and off during our ceremony.

2. On most of my church pictures when my husband and I did our grand exit… you see two little girls standing behind us while we were kissing. They were in all of our grand exit pictures. Don’t even know who they belong to. See picture.

 

3. I overpaid for plates that kids didn’t eat because they spent most of the time running around.

4. During my bouquet toss, someone’s little girl jumps in the middle of crazy women trying to catch a bouquet. She’s lucky she didn’t get stompled. Argh!

5. Some left early at 10pm because it’s past bed time for child. When I paid for reception until 12:30am.

6. I felt like telling some of my guests to watch their kid on dance floor, people were dancing while kids were playing tag. Yeah, that would be nice…bride telling guests to watch their kid.

I did not want to exclude kids and honeslty believed back then that my guest would be responsible to watch over their children…BUT when alcohol is involved and lots of mingling…they’re not always going to watch them.

They’re kids, they don’t know what a wedding is.. All they want to do is run and play. Don’t get me wrong, I love kids, but I also won’t judge you if you decide on an Adults Only Reception.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m a parent, and I don’t feel that way (generally) when my kid’s not invited to things. It’s not a personal insult, it just is what it is. There are certain situations where I feel it’s rude, but, generally, I just get over it. It is super AWESOME when people arrange to help wrangle children at events, though. My husband’s family is throwing us a reception & they’re hiring a sitter and setting up an extra tent with a TV & games for the kids which is awesome & very gracious.

However, I do feel that “We’re trying to keep this an adult’s only event” type announcements kind of grate me. I was recently invited to a wedding, where only my Darling Husband & I were on the invitation. It’s an across country wedding, but I RSVPd without my son because he wasn’t invited, and had no problem with it. However, after I RSVPd, I noticed an obnoxious note on the back about trying to keep things child free, and that grated me for some reason. I guess I’m petty lol. I honestly think it’s kind of rude to invite people cross country without inviting their children (and without offering childcare), but I had initially overlooked it until the host thought I was too stupid to read who the invitation was addressed to. I’m sure lots of Bees will disagree with me, but oh well πŸ™‚

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I adore children, and will allow children at my wedding. But to be honest, if my 4 and 6 year old nieces weren’t going to be flower girls, I would think about not having kids there. In any case, I think ANY host of ANY party has a right to decide if they want children to attend or not. And should not be responsible for.a.babysitter. Just my opinion.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@les105:  I would say that notes like that are not directed at you but at the people that literally thousands of WB posts are dedicated to who do things like cross off the number of reserved seats and write in a number that includes their children or who just show up with their kids without saying anything or who do any one of the myraid of passive aggressive things that some people do to try and get a bride to allow their kids at a child-free wedding.  So don’t take it personally and keep being awesome.

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