(Closed) So, spill it! Did you relax on the day no matter what or did you lose your s**t?

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: Cool or mental?!
    Nothing could touch me on the day! : (34 votes)
    65 %
    I went back and forth between not caring about stresses and freaking out! : (13 votes)
    25 %
    I lost my s**t! : (5 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    6107 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

     

    tiffane6:  yeah that should be good. My friend’s wedding last week the MUA dedicated 45 minutes for everyone and like an hour for the bride just to be sure. The hair was the same I believe. Everything worked out well.

    Post # 18
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    5891 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    tiffane6:  I was a little rushed in the morning once we got to the venue since we only had 1 hour to set up. Then I was pissed because the flowers were the wrong color. But I had a detailed handout that I gave everyone with cell phone numbers of everyone in the wedding party and vendors. I had instructions for everything and everyone knew what they were responsible for. (MOH took care of the big picuture stuff, Bridesmaid or Best Man was in charge of ME–lipstick smear, buslte fallen out, make sure I got food, BFF who was the officiant was in charge of moving people and making announcements).

    I also let everyone know, “Until I walk down the ailse, if there is a question or problem ask me. The second I walk down the ailse, Maid/Matron of Honor is in charge–go to her. She has 100% authority to do what she thinks is right.” Then I told Maid/Matron of Honor “I grant you 100% authority to do whatever you think is right to deal with a situation and whatever your decision, I 100% back you.” 

    Then I just let go. I was in the theater in college and you learn that at some point no matter what, the show must go on. I had done everything possible to bring my vision to life. The day of the wedding my job was to 1) make sure my guest were comfortable and 2) love the sh!t out of my FI/DH and let that happy energy flow out of me.  If guests are comfortable and they see how happy and in love you are, the rest is jut gravy. 

    Post # 19
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    7310 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I didn’t stress at all. I paid very qualified people (my DOC and vendors) to do the stressing and last minute figuring out of ish for me. 🙂 All hail my amazing DOC (Pheobe of Making Me Events). She really was my knight in shining armor.

    Post # 20
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    i lost my shit about 5 minutes before i was getting ready to walk down the aslie on our caterer who said i owed them money but i had gone in and paid in full and few weeks before hand! lol i knew that this was going to happen with them though! 

    Post # 22
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    653 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am not a relaxed person, and so I was not ultra relaxed on my wedding day. However, I did have more of a “whatever happens, happens” attitude on the actual day, because I understood that it was a choice to let it stress me out. 

    In my dress, I sat in foundation blobs, but my Maid/Matron of Honor had shout wipes, so that took care of that. It was downpouring / thunderstorms from the moment the ceremony began, which ruined our plan to walk from the ceremony to the reception (five blocks) so we took the limo which my parents had on standby. A mentally challenged man came into the sanctuary after the ceremony sort of had to be escorted out. Our cousins were seated at the head table for a quick minute, and not the bridal party…BUT, it was all fine. We got married, we had a blast, and it was more beautiful than I could have imagined. 

    Having a team for back up really helped. I had a DOC who made sure that the venues were set up and she also did the florals (she was a rock star), and one of my bestie’s boyfriends got a ton of umbrellas after the ceremony. 

    Although I wouldn’t say it was stress free, I will say that truly, everything worked out, and it was perfect. I expected things to not go according to plan, so when almost everything worked out fine, I was happily surprised!

    Post # 23
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    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    i know i shouldnt have but i did let a few things get to me, specifically my cousin who was a groomsmen being MIA the morning of, that was a nice phonecall during hair and makeup haha. And then 2 groomsmen being at the liquor store when i arrived to do the first look. it didnt put me in the greatest mood, we didnt get any bridal party shots at that time because of that! and then most of the groomsmen were smokers, i found myself walking through clouds of smoke in my $2000 wedding dress several times. I had to finally say something because i didnt want to show up to the ceremony reeking of cigarettes. Other then that i just brushed off most of things cause it was my fricken wedding day and i was deturmined to not let anyone ruin it.

    Post # 24
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    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    tiffane6:  

    I completely lost my shit. My few guests were so late that we almost could not get married that day. 

    I have a feeling that our vow renewal will be far better than our wedding.

    Post # 26
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    1069 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    The morning of I completely lost it. I woke up with some kind of food poisoning, felt like throwing up, couldn’t touch breakfast, then found out my bridal suite had been commandeered by someone else who paraded a stream of people through while I was trying to get ready. I was in tears. Luckily we sorted it all out and the rest of the day was amazing.

    Post # 27
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    70 posts
    Worker bee

    IzzyBear:  I did the same thing with hair and make-up! I thought, if we are running late… at least it’s me and the wedding can’t start without the bride lol. 

    My bridesmaid was stressing out over how late we were though – only regret i have about going last is having no time to get pics with the girls prior to the wedding…  Ohhh and 0 appetite until the next day! Which was sich a shame because I had it at my fav restaurant and couldn’t eat all the great food 🙁

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by  Toots83.
    Post # 28
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Bit of both. 

    I have trouble sleeping at the best of times, so I got maybe 3 hours of sleep the night before. Beginning of the day started off fine. Got my hair and makeup done, and my BM’s makeup done. Then it started going downhill. I was going to do one of my BM’s hair. We had practiced how I was going to style it in advance and everything. But it just was not working. So we ended up wasting about 30 minutes on her hair. Then when we went to leave for the venue I forgot the bag with our jewelry and bouquets and everything. So then we had to turn around and go back. Then we got to the venue and I realized I had forgotten my vows at home. Thankfully my brother was still at home, so I called him and asked him to grab it for me.

    The rest of us getting ready and our pictures went fine, and I was super calm.

    Then the officiant was a no-show, so there was a freakout for about 2 hours, but after we just got on with it then the rest of the night was stress free.

    Post # 29
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    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    tiffane6:  

    Thanks babe. The joke is that one of my guests thought that he could take me to task about my reaction. This idiot kept calling  my husband and I because he wanted us to pay for his rental car. He didn’t want to drive his own car because it was leased and he was scared of dirt roads damaging it.

    We refused to pay for the rental since it was his idea. His girlfriend was a so called friend of mine who was sharing secrets about me with him. I found out when he confronted me about the private things.

    I’m not friends with any of the people who were at our wedding. At our vow renewal, there will be only true friends and loving family members who were always good to me.  My husband and I are very excited. 

    Post # 30
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    1678 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    tiffane6:  I woke up, took a xanax and had a mimosa, and enjoyed every single moment without a worry. We even ran out of food and the caterer had to go get more from his restaurant but I was totally cool. It was amazing to relax after all those months of stressful planning!

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