- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Bees! I am so stressed. We are three weeks away from the wedding and I am sooo over it! We only had a 5 month engagement and in that time I put together a big beautiful wedding with minimal help. Now that it’s 3 weeks away everyone has their 2 cents about what I already decided. Im stressed, havent been hungry and have had a headache the past 2 days. Help!!!!
It’s a long post, so if you want to just tackle 1 issue that would be helpful too!!!!
1. My dad wanted the flowers to be beautiful and his way. Fine. He chose 2 of the flowers and I chose the other two. When he saw how the florst (his choice) arranged them in the vases (he designed) he got mad because they’re not what he wanted. They were fine. A little weird but at this point, I DONT CARE! He cares though and hes paying and I was trying to “guess” what he wanted because he was so sour during the meeting. He’s right, the florist hasnt been professional but at this point, we’re 3 weeks away, I just want to get things done! Now he won’t tell me what he wants and is mad at the florist. He had custom vases done and I just wish he would tell me what size they are or if they will be ready on time with the changes that need to be made but he is of course mad and going out of town now so I just have to guess?!?! I tiied passing the task to him and he declined
2. I had asked my parents if we could not have all the out of town guests stay at the house the night before the wedding because I will be getting ready there the morning of and don’t want people in my face all morning stressing me out. ALL of my aunts have a history of commenting on my weidht since I was little. I was always a skinny child so it’s really out of line but now I’m a size 8 and not skinny and on my wedding day I dont want them commenting on my large thighs etc. Now, my 2 aunts, grandma, one annoying cousin aer all going to be there. The annoying cousin is my age and a guy. I havent seen him in 15 years (its complicated) and he has been emailing me 2-3 times a week talking about how excited he is about the wedding. Great. But I dont want him in the room while Im trying to get dressed taking pictures etc
3. Now Fiance told me my youngest bridesmaid (his niece) may not feel comfortable getting ready with me so can she bring her cousin (the flower girl). Fine, but the other flower girl is not invited bc she is a terror, now I’ll look like a bitch for excluding them! AAaand now I talked to BM’s mom and she said she and BOTH her paretns will also come to drop her off and then “go somewhere and have coffee” so they can “follow the car” Ugh, do I have to invite them in too now? And have an extra 10 people around needing to be entertained while I get ready? My family doesnt speak english so it’s not like they can entertain FI’s family.
This has all developed within the past day, there’s more but this is a start. Am I overreacting? I am just picturing such a stressful day with me being torn in a million directions, people’s feelings being hurt that I’m not spending time with them, people getting mad. I just wish I would have gotten ready by myself and met everyone at the church! too late now. Everyone’s hair appts etc are set!