(Closed) So Stressed I think I am going to get hives

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1313 posts
Bumble bee

We’re shooting for Oct 2012 and I had a mild freak-out today when I found out the price of the place we wanted to have it at! I am with you, I know I have a lot of time, but there’s a lot to think about.

My suggestions

Determine your budget asap. This will help guide you!!

Research, research, research. The internet is your best friend. SO many resources and information on the web and also on Weddingbee. Everyone here is helpful!

Make a list of what is important to you — photography, food, flowers?? Rank them in order so you know how to weight your budget.

I am a huge advocate of DIY, but that’s because I can’t stand the thought of paying someone else to do something I am fully capable if I give myself enough time. The key to DIY is plan for it and give yourself a lot of time to do it. Ask for help and don’t stress yourself out.

Feel free to send me a message if you need help! 🙂 And… welcome to the Bee!

Post # 4
1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

the good news is that you do have time on your side! deep breaths! i agree that determining a budget as a first step is the best place to start. believe me, once you start seeing alllll of the many options out there, it will become very easy to lose sight of and not stick to a budget. maybe before you start number crunching, set a few priorities. determine the top 3 or 4 things that are most important to you. if this seems too difficult to narrow down, think about friends’ or family weddings you’ve been to and try to remember the things you liked/enjoyed most, or moments when you thought “wow i would love to do this at my wedding.” or, if your budget feels really arbitrary right now, and having all or most of your friends and family there with you on the big day is most important, start fleshing out a preliminary guest list and see how your total number is looking. if having a 200 person wedding is what is important, this will not only determine what venue you can get, but may also quickly help you determine what kind of money you will be spending.

i also second doing copious amounts of internet research. and there is also no harm in calling or emailing around to different vendors for quotes. just be clear that you’re in an early stage of planning and really have no idea what things cost, so you would be interested in some ballpark quotes for what services they offer. i have a lot of close friends that recently got married so i didn’t want to ask them what things cost, but feel free to ask for recommendations and then ask the vendors directly yourself.

as for doing DIY stuff, i would say start making a list of what you are good at, and what your close friends and family are good at. if you know graphic designers, i’m sure they’d be willing to do or help you with your invite and paper designs. if nothign else, there is always trial and error so if start testing out some ideas now (and talking to people about your ideas and/or helping you with executing your ideas), you will quickly discover whether or not something is worth it (both cost of materials and labor) or whether people are actually willing to help you. i decided to make a big portion of my invite suite myself, but i did a couple of test runs to see how much work it would take. it’s still probably more labor intensive that i bargained for but i have enough time to get it done.

also happy to offer more advice if you like, but i’ll stop babbling for now 🙂

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