- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I am sorry but this is going to be long. I just need a place to vent before I break down and buy $100 worth of chocolate and eat it ALL.
So my Fiance is Macedonian Orthodox and I was raised Catholic even though I do not consider myself one. Anyways, I agreed to get married in the orthodox church because it honestly didn’t matter to me, I just want to marry my Fiance. We agreed to mix customs so it would be pretty cool. I knew there was some strange customs but not until THIS week, a little over 3 months before the wedding do I hear about the ones I refuse to do. Go figure.
First off, his god parents (who are bat shit crazy. not kidding) are his aunt and uncle. They follow us down the aisle and play a very importnat part in the wedding. Fine, no big. I knew this. But then I found out that at the reception, they have to sit RIGHT NEXT to me and my Fiance, where my Maid/Matron of Honor and his best man should be. I flipped. I don’t really even like his aunt and uncle, to be honest. They are very nice people but they talk a lot of shit and start a lot of shit within the family. Also, I was considered “The American” up until like, a year ago. Rude. So I said no, I wanted both of my sisters up there with me and I am not budging. His mom called me a bridezilla and I don’t even care at this poitn because I am not having his aunt and uncle sit up where my sister should go. I didn’t even want them at the head table, but whatever. I am very willing to compromise.
So then his mom and dad said they want up at the head table. I don’t know about you bees, but I have never seen any parents at any wedding I have ever been in at thehead table with the bridal party. My parents don’t want to sit up there which I understand. His mom then said I was “a bad bride” because I didn’t know this? I usually love his mother, we get along very well and she is very easy to talk to. But she isn’t even Macedonian she’s Native American. And everytime I want to so something that is traditional to me, she vehemently shakes her head no and says, “People will talk” and this makes me SO mad. They know he is marrying an American, geesh.
So I put my foot down and I’m not budging and we’re at a stand still now. I don’t care, my parents are paying for half of the wedding, too. They are not willing to compromise easily (I had to fight with them for 6 months about not having the entire wedding reception be macedonain music!)
So THEN my mom works at a printing company and they designed my invitations, programs, and the table cards. They aren’t too busy at work right now so they need to print them ASAP so they have enough time to do so before the wedding. And if they get busy like they do then they won’t have enough time to do my stuff. So I am trying to find out how the ceremony goes (i have NO clue), who is singing, who is playing the organ and what not. So my mom tried to call my Future Mother-In-Law 5 times todayand no answer. I KNOW she is by her phone because her buisiness depends on her being available all the time. I realize she could also be on the phone with someone else, but to not even call my mom back all day? And yes, my mom left 2 messages.
So now we can’t get the programs in tomorrow. Then I call my Fiance and ask him who is groomsmen are and he says “Uhm, not sure yet. I’ll let you know next week” NEXT WEEK? seriously, dude? You have had over a year to think about this and you still don’t know? I told him needs to know by tomorrow or I’m picking them for him.
So now we are getting married in a little over 3 months. I had just assumed we would be renting. No. He wants a house. He just opened up his own Auto repair service after he got laid off from his teaching job and it’s been doing surprisingly and amazingly well. So wants me to look for houses. I have been. I have sent him about 30 different houses in the area in which we want to live. Has he called his realtor to look at these houses? Has he gone down to the bank with me to apply for a loan? Has he done anything except breifly look at the houses on his email? No. He hasn’t. It’s driving me nuts. I was talking to his mom about it and she says, “No big. Don’t rush it. You guys can just live with us. You should for the first year, anyways.” Omg. I cannot live with his parents nor do I want to. I am not coming back from our honeymoon and moving in to his parents basement. It’s so frustrating!
And then my RSVP’s are starting to come back for my shower. 3 ladies on my side have decided to RSVP for them AND their children. about 7 people on my Fi’s side have done the same. The invitation for the shower didn’t say so children, but I would assume if it just YOUR name on the envelope, it would be common sense. Haven’t these people been married? Don’t they realize how stressful it is? My mom is too nice to say no so she is stuck paying for extra people. It’s just making me mad.
If you have read this far, you’re a saint! I don’t know if I am looking for advce or what. I just needed to vent. It’s helped but I still feel like crying.