(Closed) So Stressed…re: officiant…church vs venue

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it will be too confusing to get married one day and then having a faked ceremony a day later at the location you chose.  I’m guessing that you are Catholic and need to have a Catholic wedding in order to stay with your religion?

Post # 4
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

In some cases, you can get a dispensation, which would be the Catholic Church’s permission to have a wedding outside of a church. I’m not sure what the reasons for granting dispensations are, or if you have any special circumstances, but if you talk to a priest, he should be able to help you through the process.

Post # 7
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well, if it is really important to you to have the full Catholic church ceremony, try calling and seeing if your venue is open for the Saturday. That sounds like a potential win-win situation.

Are both you and your fiance Catholic (or both Christian)? If not, there may be other options. I’m Catholic and my Fiance is Jewish. We can’t have a Catholic nuptial Mass because of this, so we are having an interfaith ceremony officiated by a rabbi, with a priest present, in a non-religious venue, and we are getting a dispensation for that so I’ll be cool.

Also, I have heard of something called “convalidation” where if you get married in a way that the Church does not recognize, you can somehow get the marriage convalidated in a later ceremony in the church. I have no idea how this works but it might be another alternative.

Hope this helps! It’s a difficult situation to be in.

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