(Closed) SO suggested engagement watch

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Busy bee

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talula23:  If my husband wanted a watch to signify our engagement, I would buy that for him. If it would make my husband happy, I would do it 100 times.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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talula23:  I got DH a Rolex as a wedding present (kind of an engagement watch too, but he got it a month before the wedding after we had been engaged a while).  If he had been expecting it, it would have been offputting for me, or if he had been pushing for something so expensive (he actually has ended up paying for almost half of it himself).  Can you afford to get him a Rolex?  I think that’s where my main concern would be.

ETA I was also the one that told him I wanted to get the Rolex for him.  He didn’t push the idea on me.  I wanted him to have something very special from me that he could wear forever.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I think it’s cute and much better than a “man-gagement ring,” especially if you can engrave it with something cute or special.

I also don’t see how women get the short end of the stick (except for having periods ..those suck haha). You two are in this relationship equally and I assume both want to be treated as such.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I mean will he be going 50/50 on everything?? Including the effort it takes to plan a wedding and all that and paying for it? Then I guess yeah, engagement watch. It is pushy to ask for a Rolex though IMO. I mean, do you have 10-20k sitting around for a watch? 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I gave my husband a watch on our wedding day. If you don’t want to give him a watch for your engagement, could you suggest that you might like to do something like that? I think he just wants you to give him a watch. So unless he’s especially into this engagement watch idea, just tell him you won’t be getting him an engagement watch, but you’d be happy to buy him a watch for his birthday/christmas/wedding day. Whatever. If my guy wanted an engagement watch, I’d probably just get it for him. I like getting things, he likes getting things. We like to get each other things…and usually we’re both happier if we just specifically ask for exactly what it is we want.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

 

I think it’s kind of weird that he seems to think that if you get a gift, he should have one too. Is he going to ask for a push present in the future as well?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

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talula23:  I got my Fiance a small variety of nice daily-wearble items (wallet, cologne etc) tailored to his tastes as engagement gifts, and spent around what he spent on my ring. Exchanging thoughtful tokens of affection/commitment was extremely romantic and didn’t “ruin” diddly squat for either of us. I assume your dude is planning on dropping Rolex-level money on your ring; if you’re not comfortable with doing the same for him, speak now.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

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talula23:  I surprised my Fiance with a trip to Japan as an engagement present. I knew, roughly, what he would be spending and wanted to do my part as well. No, he didn’t ask for anything, but I felt uncomfortable that he had to spend money to cement our relationship while I did not. He was so surprised and touched, and he loves telling people that I bought him an “engagement ring” of his own.

Why does it bother you so much? And how is it narcissistic that since he plans on dropping some money on you, he would like the same? 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think engagement gifts for the guy are awesome!  Nice and egalitarian 🙂 I did get my fiance an engagement gift, and we had discussed it beforehand.  However, it sounds like your issue is not with him wanting an engagement gift, but with the potentially unpleasant motivations behind it.  If that’s the case, you should have a talk with him about it!  E.g., does he think it’s a nice gesture for the man to get an engagement gift as well as the woman, or does he have a hard time with you getting something nice and not him?

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I think you should sit down and have a conversation about expectations with the engagement process.  That’s fine if he expects a gift, just as other PPs have said some men do, but if you don’t know of these expectations I could see how you could feel like he’s being little presumptuous. 

This way, if there are any other expectations that either of you have, they’re all out in the open ahead of time. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think if the woman is allowed to drag her boyfriend to the jeweler and point out which expensive diamond she wants for an engagement ring, a guy should be able to point out which expensive watch he wants. Personally, I find both scenarios equally annoying/entitled but I see no problem in the guy receiving an equal ‘gift’ for the engagement.

I also don’t understand the ‘women get the short end of the stick’ comment or how it would ‘ruin’ the proposal to gift your future husband with something that would make him really happy…

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

How do women get the short end of the stick in regards to engagements? 

Anyway, I think it’s pretty silly to expect a fancy ring yet balk at the idea of your partner also wanting a symbol of your engagement. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think it would be sweet to exchange engagement gifts! You get the fancy ring and he gets the fancy watch. I don’t see anything wrong with this unless he’s planning on spending $200 on your ring and wants you to spend $2000 on his watch.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

As an engagement gift or wedding gift yes. As a ‘I’m giving you this, heres what you should give me’ I don’t think I would be into that. 

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