(Closed) So tacky and a little angrey at it…

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
6872 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

These two ladies sound like self-centered attention whores. At least you recognize it.  Won’t be surprised if you weed them out of your life sooner or later.


Post # 4
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000



Just making an absolute stab in the dark to try and rationalise this… has her life changed in any significant way since marriage? What I mean is, is it possible that she feels isolated or lonely? Or perhaps the realities of marriage and the ‘come-down’ post wedding planning and festivities has gotten her a little blue and she’s coping in kind of a head-scratch inducing kind of way. Or, is it possible there is some marriage trouble and she wants licence to act like a wild version of her single self to tap into the person she may feels she’s lost?

Again, just grasping at straws. It could totally just be about both of them wanting a party they’re the centre of. I don’t blame you for not going one little bit!

Post # 5
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Misswhowedding:  That’s terrible- who does that?! I don’t blame you for not going- SUPER tacky!! I hope no one goes.

Post # 6
14025 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Maybe they’re just trying to a make fun “excuse” and a reason to do a girls night out.  Would the “event” be any different if they just called it a Saturday party?

Post # 7
8586 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

What the hell..

Post # 8
8652 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Well, I am not a fan of the “getting trashed” kind of  bachelorette party, and wouldn’t go to one like that these days in any case,  but I suppose she can treat you all to a  party and call it anything she wants.  If you are  expected to pay a dime, I wouldn’t go, though. As you say, she’s already well exceeded her quota of pre-wedding congratulatory events. 

As for putting work into other people’s events, as a BM, her only obligation is to be dressed and be there for support on the day.  And attend the rehearsal.  Anything else is completely optional. 

Maybe her BMs were able to afford more than she was for them or maybe she wants to treat everyone out to a night on the town now that she can afford it. Or none of the above and she is being just as self centered as you say. 

Post # 9
10456 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

What! It sounds like she had more than enough parties…

Post # 11
14025 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Misswhowedding:  well, if I liked the people going, I’d go and have fun.  She can expect all she wants, but I’d be getting my drinks on my own separate tab or paying cash as I go.

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