Post # 1
Nevermind the months away pre-deployment, my Fiance just found out that he will not be back from deployment, then a week’s decompression until a week into March and he has been gone since June 15.
This may not sound long to you US Military wives but it is abnormal for us Canucks. Well, more abnormal for us to find out AFTER the member is in theatre.
So I will have 3 weeks to ‘decompress’ with my FH before we get married.
It could be worse, but I miss him so much and I’m having a bit of a tough time swallowing this
Post # 3
I’m sorry to hear that. 🙁 I’m not a military wife, but I have several friends that are and know how hard that is on them. Try to just use the time to get some reading, hobbies, etc. done. Sorry, hun. 🙁
Post # 4
I’m so sorry.
It’s hard to be extened no matter what you’re “used” to. You had an expectation as to when he was supposed be home, and that’s not being met. That’s a HUGE extension. I can’t believe they would nearly double the deployment. Seriously. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that.
Post # 5
Oh no! That must be really difficult to to deal with on such short notice!
Im sorry 🙁 At least you can keep busy with the planning and the Hive.
Is Canada actively fighting in a war right now or what exactly does your man do these days in the Army?
Post # 6
Deployments suck, whether they are 1 month or 18 months… 🙁 It also is hard when you’re expecting one thing and *wham* you’re expecting another. We went into the military hoping for a job that would allow Darling Husband to work in an office doing intelligence. Well… now he’ll be on subs and be gone 80% of EVERY year… so yeah, I know how it feels to have plans change. I’m really sorry… 🙁
I really don’t think most people could handle what we do, so remember that you and incredibly strong woman who can and will rise to the challenge and make this work!!! 🙂
I don’t know if your phonetic alphabet is the same as ours, but a lot of mil wives here have shirts that say, “Foxtrot Uniform Charlie Kilo Deployments”
Post # 7
I’m so sorry, that really sucks. I have nightmares about hubby’s deployment getting extended and him missing the birth of our first child.
Post # 8
oh no!!! 🙁
does this cut into your Thailand trip too? (I know, small change in the grand scheme of things, but still!)
Post # 9
i can def understand that frustrations. and it sucks that he will be gone longer than planned. but the good this is that he will be back in time for the wedding!!!
Post # 10
Ugh! He’s going to be the last one standing in KAF! I have my fingers crossed my best friend is sent home early; when she left they told her they would start sending people home early when they didn’t need them.
It will all work out.
Post # 11
Ya I kind of figured giving the extra 3 months post-deployment would leave plenty of room to give Fiance and I time to reconnect before the wedding and also to give room for the Army’s little “whoopsies” but no! lol
I want one of those shirts SO badly!! Might I be able to order one? I would love to have it to wear in Thailand!!
The war is ‘over’ but it’s never really over. And Fiance is doing work that is a little different. He works out of the Embassy. I won’t get into specifics. 🙂 and oui, thank goodness for the Bee!! lol~ Once the cold weather hits here I will be a pomander making machine! 😛
He isn’t in Kaf. I WISH! The Canadian camp is pretty much torn down and guys in Kaf are getting sent home early~
Thanks for understanding! Thank goodness I’m the planner in the relationship. All he needs to do is be home in time enough to get his uniform from Quebec city. (he is wearing a special ceremonial one for the wedding he needs to borrow)
NO!! not small at all!! 🙂 No the trip to Thailand was his mid-tour vaca anyways so it is not affected. If anything now though, he should technically be getting another whole HLTA (Army deployment vacas) but he won’t have time so he will just get extra time once he is home
Thanks 🙂 Yes I bought this MASSIVE framed mirror from a home store that was badly chipped and I am going to refinish the frame. That is my big “to-do” besides weddings stuff. Plus I just started a new job so that is helping
Aw that would suck def! My fear is that since our wedding is a Destination Wedding if he couldn’t make it his whole half is non-transferable so I would be out quite a large sum of cash! 🙁 But a birth is priceless for sure.
Aw the life of an Army Wife!! lol
Post # 12
I’m glad you’ll still get that trip together! The anticipation that builds up towards stuff like that can make changes in plans so much harder – if it was scheduled to be longer/worse in the first place, it’s like, you could deal with it so much easier, but the later in the game that stuff gets extended, the worse it is to deal with (emotionally) because you prepare yourself for a set length of time, and then, it doesn’t happen that way.
Post # 13
I know how hard this is….Heck, even a few weeks delay is heartbreaking. I remember when Darling Husband (boyfriend at the time) was getting ready to come back, we found out it would be an additional month…It dang near broke my heart.
Post # 14
Its so true and everyone is like “well common, you’ve survived this long, whats another day/week/month”
But it really is all about mental preparation.
Oh-my0-friggen-god that site you sent me has thousands of Military stuff.. cups, tshirts, magnets, panties! I can’t decide! I looked through them my entire hour long lunch hour and had to save my cart to finish shopping when I get home. Most of the stuff is super tacky/corny but some is cute! I have a pair of Gstrings that say “you thing Afghanistan is hot … wait till these come off” in my cart!!! LMAO. A total joke for FH. I will don them on our upcoming visit in Thailand.
Post # 15
I can feel your pain sweetie! Even though my Fiance isn’t military, I grew up a military brat. After I was born, we didn’t move around as much as they did prior to me coming along. Although, my father did the moving 🙁 Our family suffered a lot emotionally when he would get stationed in another country. Once he was stationed in Germany (where I was born) for 3 years. We only saw him 2 times within that time period. It was really rough.
I hope this time for you, flies by! Maybe with all of the wedding preperations, the time will whizz by. My prayers go out to you and your family! <3
Post # 16
@Oneeleven: I hope you can keep yourself busy so the time goes by faster.