Post # 1
Anyone else had that “ah hah” moment after their wedding where you feel a bit different? My husband and I have moved into our appartment and been setting it up. It feels like I’m just hanging out with my best friend….andI’m wondering if there’s some ‘wifemode’ I need to switch to? It hasn’t quite sunk in that we’re married. I know we had the wedding, wich was super fun and emotional and meaningful. Settling into married life has been fun. I thank God for that.
Just thought to share.
Post # 2
I still don’t feel that way. I wouldn’t even tell people I was married until I changed my name because to me that’s what made it “official” for some reason. But we’ve been married almost 3 months and I definitely don’t feel like it! It just feels like we had a fun day and life moves on. We get mail to Mr & Mrs, and I’ve got my new name tag at school/work but I don’t feel “married.” I don’t think I ever will! I still get confused when I introduce him as my “boy-fianc-husband” lol
Post # 3
The first time it really hit me was when we were on our honeymoon and he was trying clothes on in a store, and I went to ask the clerk for another size for my… HUSBAND?? It was the first time I actually called him that, and it was awesome, hahah.
Post # 4
For me it was when I needed to sign my name for a something. I started signing my first name and then when I got to my last name I literally stopped and stared. I was asked if there was a problem and I just lightly laughed and said “This is the first time I am signing as JBaranick and not JMunro.” It was strange!!! And seeing it was super awkward! Hahaha I need to seriously work on my new signature now…
Post # 5
I honestly don’t think that everyone necessarily feels “different” once they get married. While I’m sure some people do, it hasn’t happened for me yet and I don’t think it ever will. We were together for 5.5 years, we’ve lived together for 3, we bought our house together last summer, we were not abstaining or anything, so now all that’s different is my name, our titles (husband/wife) and that there’s a legal piece of paper out there that says we’re married.
Sure it’s sometimes strange to hear someone call me Mrs. S— instead of Miss G— or to say “husband” instead of “fiance,” but I personally don’t feel any different, and I probably won’t since nothing technically ever “changed” between us.
Post # 6
SKyAlex: We are coming up on our 4 year anniversary and I still have moments where I ‘forget’. Then suddenly we are buying a lawn mower together and I have a “oh yeah, we’re married” moment LOL
Post # 7
SKyAlex: I have been married a year and a half and it still hasnt sunken in! lol I guess it was because we lived together before we got married so after we got married it wasnt much different. It still feels strange saying “husband”
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
Our relationship hasn’t changed since being married and I think that’s actually a GREAT thing! Shortly after we were married a family friend asked him if he felt differently, and he said “She’ll always be my best friend and girlfriend, but now she’s my wife too.” D’awwwwwwwwww. I’ll never forget it; it melted my heart!
I don’t think there is a “wifemode” if there is then I must be defective, lol!
Post # 9
We’ve had some “yay we’re married” moments (I said husband for the first time to someone on the honeymoon and that was SUPER FUN) but nothing too overwhelming. The most emotionally overwhelming part for us was the actual day of the wedding, we both cried randomly all day.
But we don’t feel any different – though we were living together for over a year before the wedding, so we sort of came home from the honeymoon and got back to the grind. He’s still the same and I’m still the same and we still treat each other the same, so….
Post # 10
SKyAlex: It felt totally different for us because we didn’t live together and in our 3 years together before marriage we didn’t go on any vacations that were over a few days long so the honeymoon was the longest we had been alone together. It was AWESOME and fun and new and continues to be that way. 🙂 The newness and excitement of it all has certainly made the post-wedding blues nearly non-existent and has really smoothed potential conflicts over. Woo!
Post # 11
I am not married yet… another 3 weeks.. but I still don’t have that feeling I’m engaged and I will be someone else wife…
It’s funny that for my past relationship, some of my ex like to refer me has “wife” privately but this time I’m with my fiance, I never refer or thought of him as my … husband… the term is just weird haha
and it feel weird when he introduce me to his long time friend or family as “this is my wife, xxx”
the most recent awkard moment is..when I’m filling up form for him (work benefit, medical insurance.etc) ahead of time, writing down “husband” on the form …… just feel unreal. I paused each time I hit the spot relationship
Post # 12
SKyAlex: lol Sunday is my 1 year wedding anniversary and I still have that “living with bestfriend” feeling. I mean he is my best friend but it still feels surreal that we are finally married after being together so long.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
SKyAlex: My wedding was 3 months ago but we’ve legally been married 10 months.. I get that butterfly flutter feeling when I say ‘my husband..’ in public, but I don’t feel all that different to before. I definitely felt different after getting engaged though! I felt like kind of legitimate and stable in society, safe, and like I now had a place in the world instead of being a lost graduate still not sure what I was doing with my life 🙂
I worry when I become a mother I won’t ‘feel like a mother’ lol.
Post # 14
You ladies have been awesome. Thanks so much. I think I had my first moment a few weeks ago when I called in to work for Mr. A and left a message for his supervisor as his ‘wife’…..It hit me after I left the message. Now to work on that new signature…..