Post # 1
Anyone else’s family find it hilarious to talk about the wedding night *wink wink* AT your wedding?? I just remembered this tonight… but it was the weirdest thing!
DH’s dad made a comment to me about how he hoped Darling Husband didn’t wear himself out too much on the dance floor so he’d have some “energy for later *wink wink*”, his mom made a similar joke, and even my dad said something about it!
And might I add… we are both 26 years old, not particularly religious, and living together for over a year (and not the first person either of us has lived with). So um… there are no illusions or misunderstandings about our “purity.” 🙂
Neither of our families are typically the type to joke around about that so I found it incredibly weird and awkward that they chose our wedding day to start. It didn’t bother me really (except making me a little uncomfortable)… but more just like… really? lol
Anyone else? Or are our families just super weird?
Post # 3
I think my mother is still pretending that my daughter was the result of an immaculate conception, so no haha no sex talk!
Post # 5
Haha! I don’t have anything to add to this thread yet but I think it’s hilarious and want to hear more stories!
Post # 6
haha we didnt get any of that type of talk at our wedding, thank god!
Post # 7
My uncle said in his toast (at his daughter’s wedding) “[Cousin’s husband] isn’t the only one trying to get lucky tonight!”
My Dad nearly died- while this man was a hippy in the 60s and 70s, but he is super uptight now- as a new teacher his nickname was “Little Hitler” and he’s been a superintendent for the past dozen year or so.
Post # 8
Future Mother-In-Law told me that on her wedding night, as she and Future Father-In-Law were heading out of their reception, her Father-In-Law (FI’s grandfather) pulled her aside and said, “Wear him out,” <wink wink>. 30-something years later, I still don’t think she’s forgiven him.
Post # 9
My parents were already living together before the wedding and said they were way too drunk/tired to do anything. Apparently they ordered pizza and passed out in their wedding outfits. Hahaha. Very romantic.
Post # 10
@McVerde: exactly! it was just so. awkward. DH’s dad was definitely the worst comment because his was the most overt and it was made while I was slow dancing with him (my FIL). So that’s just……………. awkward. And ew. And omg don’t ever talk to me about sex again. lol (I should mention prob I’m not really close with him…)
I”m kinda disappointed this isn’t a common phenomenon. I feel so alone………… haha
Post # 11
I don’t think anything was mentioned to us (thank god!) but at my SIL’s wedding in 2006, my Mother-In-Law told SIL’s new hubby to “be gentle” or something along those lines.
Post # 12
My mother mentioned getting nice lingerie, because “afterall, there is a hymen involved!” I nearly died.
Post # 13
not about the wedding night per say, but my dad thought it was HILARIOUS to talk about what would happen in the yichud room after our ceremony. yichud is a Jewish tradition–immediately after the ceremony, the couple spends about 10 minutes or so completely by themselves, before heading to the reception. i guess in the old days that’s when the couple would consummate the marriage, but now it’s more like the couple takes a few mins to be say “omg we’re married!!!!” and eat a little food and relax for a few minutes. it’s actually really lovely–hubby and i sat there and both cried and called each other “husband” and “wife” over and over, lol. no way we were having sex then and there–the ordeal of dealing with my dress, hair, etc would be waaay to much of a pain in the ass, lol. but yeah. my dad made a LOT of super awkward jokes about it when we were planning and figuring out our timeline and such…
Post # 14
I think some parents deal with “losing” their daughter in different ways.
Even though I’m in my 30s and have been on my own for over a decade, my parents have had some award moments since I’ve gotten engaged. I’ve been with my fiance for five years and there are times when they act like he’s a new boyfriend.
It’s hard to cut them some slack in light of the fact that your relationship is involved…but I guess we all have to try. 🙂
Post # 15
I can only hope for my wedding I hear none of this 🙂
At my first wedding we left the reception a little early to go change and simply enjoy the fact that we were married (!). We went down to the bar shortly after (20 minutes TOPS) and people were giving us shit about what they thought we were doing. Ugh.
Post # 16
We had some comments too, but mainly because we waited and everyone knew that we were very ready to get to the hotel!!
Father-In-Law did text Darling Husband a few weeks after our wedding to “always keep Trojans on hand if you don’t want babies… our family is fertile!” Thanks, dad.