- 8 years ago
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I never heard of moissy prior to WB, but the real vs fake in conversations– do people really flat out ask you if your ring is real? No one has ever approached me with cut, clarity, size, real vs fake or anything other than ” beautiful ring, he did a good job!” . OP– you’ve gotten viewpoints from all angles of this in 4+ pages but my advice is just communication with your guy. He knows you and your situation way better than anyone else, I just hope you’ve considered some of the posts here showing his point of view.
“Umm, I’m dishonest because I wear cz and moissanite jewelry without advertising that it isn’t diamond”
No. If you’re asked if they’re diamonds and you say they are… yes, you are dishonest.
“and when people say my pie is tasty I don’t announce that it isn’t home-made?”
Yes. If you say “i made it” it is a lie, which is the same as being dishonest.
“I also dye my hair and don’t tell people I have grey hairs, and I wear a padded bra and false eyelashes.”
“Oh, and I photoshopped my Facebook profile picture so my eyes looked a brighter blue. One of my teeth is a fake too, as I knocked one out while climbing a tree as a kid. I suppose I should announce that to everyone who says I have a lovely smile?”
You’re just being a bit ridiculous now
Look… I get that you want a bigger stone because your fingers are fat (that’s what you said)
Why dont you tell that to your FI? instead of “i want a big rock” just tell him “my fingers will look fatter and i’ll feel a bit selfconcious”
If you get your ring, whatever it is, rock it with pride, even if its a small diamond, hell ITS A DIAMOND! i dont even have a ring! (not that i care TBH)
If you get your Moissy rock it too, and if someone asks if it’s a real diamond (some people are just rude) tell the truth and say it’s a moissy, what’s the deal? you got your big rock, right?
I also wanted to point out that I’d never heard of a moissy before coming to the bee either. However, I can usually tell the difference between a diamond and other similar looking stones. I have always been able to tell the difference between diamonds and moissy’s, even though I didn’t know what the moissy’s were called before coming to the bee. I don’t think the OP will be able to successfully fool very many people into thinking it’s a diamond, and quite frankly it bothers me (and her Fiance it sounds like) that she would try.
I prefer the look of moissy, which is why I like them, but it sounds like the OP would rather have a huge diamond if that was an affordable option. Since it’s not an affordable option, she’s “willing to settle for” a moissy. I don’t think that’s a good reason to get a moissy and I can totally understand why her Fiance is upset by that attitude. If she liked the way a moissy looked better than the way a diamond looked, that would be a whole different story. It sounds like she likes the way diamonds look better though and would be trying to pass a moissy off as a diamond. That’s one of the things that bothers me, and I’m sure that’s part of what bothers her Fiance too.
I also agree with PP about actually looking at a moissy before you decide for sure that’s what you want. They do look very beautiful and very different than a diamond. You might be singing a different tune once you see them.
Honestly though, why not just get a CZ if you’re only looking for something that can pass as a diamond but has a smaller price tag? To most people I know, a CZ looks just as much like a diamond as a moissy does (we can all tell the difference though and I don’t know of anyone who’s mistaken a moissy for a diamond) and CZ is even cheaper than moissy in most situations. Honestly, any person who has ever worn a diamond ring can probably tell the difference between a moissy and a diamond. I’m not sure why OP is set on a moissy when it’s clear that what she acutally wants is not a moissy, but something that looks like a diamond that is cheaper than a diamond. Moissy’s don’t look like diamonds to me.
He doesn’t want to buy me a 0.5ct ring. He said if he proposed, he’d plan to spend about $2k on a 0.5ct ring. I was feeling sorry for myself last week because yet another friend got proposed to in less time than me – she’s the owner of the 1.5ct diamond which started this whole conversation between us.
SO asked me what I thought of her ring, and said he’d probably propose with a much smaller 0.5ct. I said I’d prefer something which looks more like what my friend has, even if it isn’t a diamond. This is when I mentioned moissanite, and he went nuts because his 0.5ct diamond isn’t good enough for me, and I should be satisfied with what he can afford. I said sorry but I’d prefer a plain band instead of a small diamond which didn’t suit my hand, but if he insisted on getting a gemstone I’d prefer a moissanite so I could have the size I want.
I still have doubts about when or even if he will actually propose. I’m quite concerned that he’ll just decide to pop the question with this expensive diamond which I won’t like, and will have wasted his money, and I won’t have a ring that I feel comfortable wearing.
In any case, have a good night bees, hopefully we helped her sort out what to say.
Umm, I’m dishonest because I wear cz and moissanite jewelry without advertising that it isn’t diamond, and when people say my pie is tasty I don’t announce that it isn’t home-made? I also dye my hair and don’t tell people I have grey hairs, and I wear a padded bra and false eyelashes. Oh, and I photoshopped my Facebook profile picture so my eyes looked a brighter blue. One of my teeth is a fake too, as I knocked one out while climbing a tree as a kid. I suppose I should announce that to everyone who says I have a lovely smile? If that’s what you call dishonest then you’ve obviously been fortunate enough never to encounter real dishonesty.
it never occurred to me to not tell people that a pie is not homemade ( i do bake homemade stuff regularely so people asking is not odd…and if i didn’t i tell them where i got it)….I have NEVER photoshopped myself, and a friend once photoshopped me and i gave her shit (and she’s no longer a friend since her priorities were different than mine)….i have a friend who had his teeth knocked out and never professes his fakes are his (and is quite proud of them), and I have a gorgeous amber ring that Fiance bought me that I always say is amber…
i don’t get being fake about who you are…maybe it’s just WHO I AM….the face that honesty is the best policy….i dunno…even misleading people would feel wrong to me
maybe it’s also because i love myself and my life…”faults” and all
I feel this is getting really off topic and now we are all “personality bashing” the OP.
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