(Closed) SO thinks I'm ungrateful for wanting a moissanite

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 167
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Lillianna:  “I don’t want him to waste his hard earned money on something I don’t even want.”

You need to figure out the best way to say this to him without hurting his feelings.  I think you should research engagement rings and find ones you like.  If you don’t mind a colored stone, I’d take a look at some.  While I don’t think the size of the diamond matters for most people, you sound like you would be really uncomfortable wearing a small diamond because you think it would look funny on your finger.  That’s fine…you just need to express that to your fiance!  Find some rings you’d LOVE, and show him pictures, and say something like, “This is what I meant…I want something that I think looks great on my hand.  I would feel uncomfortable with a ring that looked small because I would feel self-conscious about my fat fingers.  I don’t care what kind of stone it is — because the whole point is that we love each other!  I will just feel really uncomfortable with a smaller stone because of my fingers.”  

Post # 168
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@smcs28:  We get it, you would never dream of misleading anyone about anything, ever. Not even pie.

Post # 169
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

U don’t need to worry about what other girls are wearing, I can tell you larger fingers look beautiful with smaller stones too- makes the finger look longer and more slender believe it or not, and you should also investigate color.  LMNOPQRST diamonds are warm and you can get BIG stones for MUCH less than whiter ones.  

Post # 170
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Lillianna:  My opinion might not count because my Fiance and I were babies lol. He proposed to me at 16. and that was 3 years ago no one was prego either lol i was 18. but Im pretty sure if you get a diamond you really wouldn’t care if it was small. When my Fiance proposed to me he gave me a beautiful ring. my ring size is a 7 and my tcw wasn’t even .25 and he worked his butt off to get it. That wasn’t something I cared about though. He could have given me a ring pop lol

 I just cared about the fact that he chose me. Also it didnt look small at all. and to be even more honest theirs alot of single women out there who would kill to be in you shoes. My mother has a friend who is 40 now and she is still single because nothing is ever good enough for her….

Now No I dont think your materialistic because I don’t know you lol, and Im not saying you’ll end up like her lol  but after reading your post a second time it does seem like his feelings were hurt by what you said. So maybe you didnt mean it to, Im sure you didnt. So if I were you I would apologize and explain what you really meant if you just truly want moissanite for unmaterialistic (is that even a word lol hehee) reasons. Or apologize and take what he picks for me with open arms and focus on the fact that he chose you instead of the ring.

Post # 171
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@puppiekisses:  I totally agree =]

Post # 172
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@puppiekisses:  yeah, i went a bit over the top… i got a bit mad she said that the .5 ct ring would be “awful” D:

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@Lillianna:  sorry if i was rude 🙂 i hope everything works out.

Post # 173
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Helper bee

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A ring is a symbol between you and him… If he wants it to be a real diamond, than go with it and design something you like out of what he is offering.

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Post # 174
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hey everyone…I think the OP is not expressing herself well or something, but I think the problem is not the amount of money the ring is worth but rather whether she’ll feel comfortable wearing it…am I wrong?

Post # 175
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@Lillianna:  “Moissanite is also a sparkly white stone which is less expensive than a diamond. I’d prefer moissanite to white sapphire as it sparkles more. I don’t see the difference as people would still assume a white sapphire was a diamond – they’ll assume that any white stone e-ring is a diamond”

Nobody will assume that white sapphire is a diamond, just like nobody would assume a moissy was a diamond.  Or a CZ for that matter.  Like I said before, anyone who has ever worn a diamond ring, or who has spent time looking at them, will know the difference.  

Post # 176
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It might be a good idea to steer this back in the direction of the OP’s question, which is how to deal with her fiance’s response to her wanting moissanite.

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@Lilliana: I think educating him about moissanite would be a good start. People tend to think about it a lot differently when they understand how well it stands up as a gemstone in its own right. Also, perhaps try to explain to him that you wanting something cheaper (and bigger) is not a judgement about him and what he can afford, but rather a concern that you have about the cost of diamonds. It’s not his fault that they cost so much for the size that you would love. Why not have a stone in the size you love and be able to afford it?

Post # 177
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@peachacid:  She said she wants a 1.5ct ring like her friend has and she wants a stone that will pass as a diamond (and has every intention of letting it pass as one). She said she would rather have a 1.5ct diamond but since he can’t afford that, she’ll take a moissy so it will be big enough for her. I think that is pretty clear.

Post # 178
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m scared to even step foot into here, but have you told him it’s about your style? You prefer more finger coverage, simple as that. Some people like sports cars, some like SUVs. 

Post # 179
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@AllTheGoodUsernamesAreTaken:  “Nobody will assume that white sapphire is a diamond, just like nobody would assume a moissy was a diamond.  Or a CZ for that matter.  Like I said before, anyone who has ever worn a diamond ring, or who has spent time looking at them, will know the difference.”


I totally disagree with this! People mistake my CZ rings for diamond all the time. Any my ring with white sapphires in the halo…yep. People tell me how pretty the “diamonds” on the rings are. Truth is, most people could care less what stone your ring is. Almost no one I know is even aware of what moissanite is, let alone be able to pick it out by giving someone’s ring the ol’ once over. The majority of people see white and sparkly and think “diamond”, unless it’s an obviously too-huge CZ cocktail ring or something like that.

 

 

Post # 180
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@jumpthegun:  But its not just about size its about passing as a diamond. By your analogy, she’d be prying the RAV4 off the back of the SUV and super-glueing a lexis symbol there (assuming the cars looked similar, which i know they don’t but i don’t know SUVs well enough to think of two that look the same)

p.s. I drive a rav4 so i’m certainly not bashing them haha

Post # 181
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@peachacid:  yeah, but she plans on letting everyone believe it’s a diamond

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