(Closed) SO thinks I'm ungrateful for wanting a moissanite

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 197
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@puppiekisses:  Thanks πŸ™‚

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@mspartridge:  A polo shirt is just the cut, it has nothing to do with brand so there are no fake polo shirts. πŸ˜‰ I do get the point you were trying to make, but I don’t think that’s anything like the situation here.  If she wanted a moissy because she likes moissy’s then this thread would have been completely different.

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@sablemuse:  You’ve touched on the problem there.  The issue so many people are taking with the OP (and likely the issue her Fiance has too) is that she DOES intend to lie about it and promote it as something it’s not.  She has already stated a few times that she will lead people to believe that it’s a diamond instead of being proud that it’s a moissy.

And now I have finally reached the end of this thread.  Yay! lol

Post # 198
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@peachacid:  Good idea! πŸ™‚  Would love to see a poll.  I’m not saying that everyone can.  I thought I was in the majority with being able to tell the difference, but it’s possible I’m in the minority instead.  This wouldn’t be the first time I was wrong about something. πŸ˜‰  I was really just trying to point out that not everyone will think it’s a diamond and the ones who know it’s not a diamond might be offended that she’s trying to pass it off as one.

Post # 199
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Busy bee

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@sablemuse:  She is hurting somebody! Her poor boyfriend just wants to put a ring on her finger and ask her to marry him and all she cares about is whether her ring is big enough. 

 

Post # 200
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Busy bee

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@AllTheGoodUsernamesAreTaken:  I can tell the difference too. I had a friend with a moissy ring, and comparing her center stone to mine they definitely weren’t the same. Not saying that moissanite isn’t pretty, it is, but it does look different from a high quality diamond. 

Post # 201
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I stopped reading after page 3, but I did read you only want 1 ring and no wedding band.  How about a 5 stone ring or diamond band-type ring?  Something like these. 

http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-ring-platinum_9717

http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-ring-white-gold_19907

He’d get you diamonds, the ring would be impressive and sparkly enough to hold its own, and you’d be able to wear it every day with no worries of knocking it into things.  

 

As an aside note, I think the right choice for your ring is what makes BOTH of you happy.  I hope you guys can reach a compromise.

Post # 202
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Bee Keeper

I wonder why some of us, myself included, feel like lying about a ring is different than your hair color or a padded bra. I mean, I highlight my hair and I have no problem telling people that. 

Post # 203
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

PAGE 6! 

Post # 204
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@abirdword:  those are both gorgeous!!!

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@BlondeMissMolly:  Do people feel it is different? You said you have no problem telling people you highlight your hair. I tell people all the time I color my hair! I often do it red and get a lot of compliments and I ALWAYS make some comment like “Thanks! I wish it was mine that would be so much cheaper” lol. I also tell people when my cupcakes came from a box mix (if they compliment them) and that I found ___ recipe on pinterest. I just don’t see the point in trying to be something I’m not… I like being authentic with people.

Post # 205
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

So she wants to lie about it. It’s her karma. Seems to me that her SO and anyone expounding on how “fake” or “wrong” it is is just as ego-driven as she would be in claiming that it’s real.

Think about why it irritates people so much to hear that she may try to pass it as the “real thing.” Either 1 – to them it diminishes the perceived value of their own diamond, 2 – to them it diminishes the perceived value of their non-diamond, or 3 – it diminishes the perceived value of their “code of honor” where they feel obligated to disclose and be disclosed to. In reality if she is happy, none of this is relevant is it? I can promise you these values are totally the perception of the individual and not absolute truths. 

OP – You and your fiance be happy! Don’t fight over how people perceive you, or a rock πŸ™‚

Post # 206
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@CorgiTales:  Exactly!  I like your responses much better than what I came up with off the top of my head though. lol

 

Post # 207
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@puppiekisses:  You’re a mess hahaha. I saw your excited chanting, awaiting this page!

Post # 208
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@sablemuse:  None of those is the reason I’m opposed to her lying about what the stone is.  I don’t like fake people or liars, which is why I don’t like the idea that she would lie about it.  However, I wouldn’t have commented at all on it if her Fiance was on the same page as her with the ring.  It’s none of my buisness if someone wants to be fake and who cares if some random person on the internet likes or dislikes what they’re saying.  The only reason I pointed it out and chose to comment here is to give her some perspective on how her Fiance was feeling about the situation.  She did ask for help/advice and my way of doing that was to try to help her see where he might be coming from.  For all I know, he’s not thinking anything similar to what I’ve said, but it is a possibility.  I’m sure that’s got something to do with the reasoning for a lot of PP responses in this thread. πŸ™‚

Post # 209
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@jumpthegun:  LMAO there had to be a good side to all this criticism

Post # 211
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@AllTheGoodUsernamesAreTaken:  I think it’s really cool that you guys want to help her out with her FI’s perspective, but I would definitely categorize that as #3 (her behavior not fitting into your “code of honor”) and say that labeling her as a “fake person” is totally by your standards. I suppose if you saw the OP as asking to be judged by your standards then that makes sense, but I still would ask you to reflect on whether name calling is ego-driven or actually helpful. 

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