- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
Fiance and I have hit a really rough patch financially. We just cannot catch a break. Last night we came up with a plan that would allow us to still stay pretty close to on track with our regular bills and living expenses, but it would require a down to the penny kind of budget. And it was in some ways going to over extend us temporarily and in the long run it would even us out. But there was no wiggle room. It was really our only course of action that we could come up with given everything we have on our plate at the moment. Well as luck would have it, this morning FI’s fuel pump on his truck broke so thats about a 300-400 dollar cost right there and he needs his truck for work so there is no getting around this. So it wrecked our plan and now we are back at square one.
Now let me get to how this all affects our wedding plans. We have started to plan for our wedding and originally were planning a very traditional big family wedding and reception. Its just what we both always envisioned. What we did not envision was having to basically use all of our savings for family related emergencies that we as a couple could not sit back and ignore and not help (ill explain in a PM if anyone really wants to know the details) and to be back living paycheck to paycheck without warning. We will get back on track as we always do but planning the kind of wedding we originally thought out is not going to be possible. We will have a big wedding in the next few years for sure but it will not be in 2013 like we wanted. We also do not want to wait to get married but do not want to just go to city hall or elope. So we came up with this…
We will arrange what our family thinks is an engagement party. My parents and siblings and immediate family will know what is really going on and so will his immediate family. It will be a low key dinner at a nice restaurant in downtown chicago. We will have an officiant and do a short to the point ceremony there in the reserved area of the restaurant we are thinking of and do a surprise wedding with our family and those who are important to us there. Then we will all have dinner and that will be our celebration with possibly an after party for those that want to attend. Nothing fancy or over done and something we can easily put together. We think its romantic and something our families will really enjoy and have fun with. My parents are on board as well and think its a great alternative with a unique twist (the fact that its a surprise!).
I was not sure where to post this so I posted in receptions but it can be moved if someone has a better spot for it.
Bees, I can say that I am really sad that right now we have gotten hit so hard with money issues and that our dream wedding is being put on hold. I have cried my tears over it and now I feel better knowing we have come up with something that I am excited about. I guess im just venting and wondering if anyone else has done anything like this? or even considered it?