Post # 1
The wedding is a week from Saturday.
I’ve been burning the candle on both ends lately and I feel like I am starting to resent my wedding as a direct result. Well, maybe resent is a strong word. But I feel too tired to be excited or nervous or anything. I’m straight up worn out. And I worry that no one else is excited about the wedding, either, because of my sheer exhaustion and lack of enthusiasm. This is not a good look. Maybe I’m just PMSy. I don’t think Fiance seems too excited either, but he is a male. Is anyone else going through this? I just want to sleep and wake up and be off for wedding week. Which starts Tuesday.
Am I abnormal?
Post # 3
Oh, and I’m doing that terrible thing where I look at the extended forecast every day. And it’s calling for rain.
Post # 4
This is exactly how I felt. I think it’s a totally normal response to this impending event in your life that’s so enormous it’s hard to process all at once. I remember just wanting to get it over with… and then the day actually arrived, and all that excitement I’d been waiting for arrived!
Post # 5
@stillme: I seriously appreciate this response. It’s just starting to depress me.
Post # 6
Thank you both for making me feel like I’m not crazy. I’m getting married 3 weeks from Saturday. EVERYTHING is so overwhelming to me, this just isn’t fun.
One of my girlfriends thinks that despite the fact I’m miserable, I’ll look back on it all and say that I loved wedding planning… I doubt that.
Post # 7
Right there with all of you. My wedding is this Saturday, and there are so many last minute things I need to do/forgot about. I feel like my heart is going to explode. I am also doing the checking extended forecast and freaking out. I just keep reminding myself that the moment will soon come when I’m in my wedding dress, married, and drinking alcohol. That moment keeps me going.
Post # 8
It is completely normal, I promise. I was the same way – exhausted, and just reasy for it to happen already so I could stop making decisions and trying to fix the ever growing list of things to do.
And then feeling like that made me feel bad, and sad that the wedding I worked so hard to plan was becoming something I didn’t want to deal with.
It was a vicious cycle, but it was all the farthest thing from my mind for the actual wedding (and the hours leading up to it). Even with all the crap that went wrong, I was happy and excited to be getting married to the love of my life.
Basically, don’t feel bad for how you feel – TOTALLY normal!!!
Post # 9
You know, rain can make for beautiful pictures as you get a lovely indirect light. It’s also supposd to be good luck.
Post # 10
It rained for weeks before our wedding and you know what it was bone dry on the day of our wedding… it rained cats and dogs the following day. Dont look at the forecast, it changes all the time, you will enjoy your day no matter what happens really!!. Dont worry about what you can’t control, keep your head up, everyone worries like you are before their big day, your day will be amazing!!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I felt the same way…. Until we went to our venue last Sunday to go over the last-minute details about what goes where. Being there with Mr. W made me feel so.much.better. I thought about all of the silly crafts that are half-finished at home, and all of the things left to do on my list – and I felt at peace. I knew then that what doesn’t get done, won’t get done…but there we were where we know, as long as our officiant shows up, we’ll be married. Do you have a chance to sneak into your venue? It really did make me feel happy, a little excited, and definitely less stressed.
Also, I’ve been pigging out on leftover Halloween candy. That helps. A lot.
Post # 12
I’m right there with ya. In fact, about 80% of me kinda just wants to run away…so sad. I thought this would be the fun part. 🙁 Also had to request that one of my bridesmaids NOT come to the wedding, because after visiting her last week,….she’s not mentally stable! Sad. Tired. Overwhelmed. Ugh. and, ha, I think my PMS started today. …maybe I should pig out on some Halloween Candy too! lol
Post # 13
totally normal. i got married last saturday and right up until about 3 hours before the ceremony I really was like ehhh yay its wedding, who frickin cares. i just couldn’t get excited like I felt I should. but when i was getting my hair and makeup done, it hit me. I think its noraml hun. Just go with it, relax and don’t worry, the feelings will come!!
Post # 14
I have been feeling a little this way too! For instance today I could have accomplished so much wedding wise but I didn’t really get much done. I just want the day to be here already!
Post # 15
Well, I am sort of there with you. I am still excited but I am exhausted. I literally got sick over it LOL! No seriously, I got sick Monday and have been sick ever since, so the whole week. I am just starting to feel a little better today and had some soup. I love planning events but a wedding is a whole other monster. I am also dealing with 2 very big issues that came up suddenly with the wedding but trying not to stress as I am sick and want to get better so I can finally get the last minute stuff I have to do done.
Post # 16
No! You’re not abnormal. I think I was full on depressed for a couple weeks before the wedding. Depressed, tired, anxious and apathetic, feeling like I had been swallowed by the wedding monster, just wanting it to be over. And I didn’t even have any DIYs!
And let me tell you, my wedding was the most fun I’ve ever had. One of the best moments was at the welcome dinner (we had a Destination Wedding in New Orleans and invited everyone to the welcome dinner) which was on the second floor of a restaurant, standing there and watching everyone from every part of our lives stream up the stairs and assemble in the same room in the space of about 5 minutes. That was amazing. And from that moment on it was fun, love, partying, eating, drinking, laughing, dancing, all good things! It was more than worth it, it really really was.