(Closed) So tired of the losing

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I file for a divorce?
    yes : (4 votes)
    21 %
    no : (1 votes)
    5 %
    marriage counseling : (12 votes)
    63 %
    individual counseling : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1576 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    That’s a real messed up situation for sure and you do have 3 kids to think about. I am sure most bees would suggest counseling 1st and perhaps it would make the decision easier.

    Post # 4
    Member
    169 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think you need a partner who you can trust. You deserve better than this. Perhaps try counseling first, but I would also start preparing yourself for divorce.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2321 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    He isn’t worth fighting with or for it if he’s lying abt visiting her. He’s an adult. You need him to behave like a responsible one. And there are so many kids involved. You need responsible adults taking care of them.

    I’d say, don’t waste money on counselling. Get an annullment. You don’t need to get a divorce. Get the marriage annulled, and let him ‘settle’ his matters first BEFORE you get back in the relationship with him. 10 to 1, I think you will end up finding a man who is going to love you more than he does, and won’t even lie about his ex-wife (if he even has one!)

    Divorce is costly and very taxing on you financially and mentally. Try for an anullment. If you miss the anullment period, then you’ll be in more headache than you are now.

    Post # 6
    Member
    241 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like a really sucky situation for all involved.

    Your husband sounds like a weak person. The ex-wife sounds manipulative, and you’re acting like a door mat. I think you need to put your foot down and insist on some counseling. It sounds like there might be deeper issues than just what’s on the surface. I have to wonder if your husband isn’t still in love with the ex.

    Insist on some counseling ASAP. I would certainly fight for my marriage if I were in this situation, but only you know how much you can put up with.

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