Post # 1
This evening, I was spending time with a friend whom I haven’t seen since I started dating my boyfriend. Needless to say, I was eagerly giving her basic details about him. Then she interrupted me and asked, “Are you sure he doesn’t like you just for the money?” I gave her a strange look, told her no, and that he makes more money than I do. She then said, “Well yeah, he makes more now but you will later. Believe me, I’ve seen this stuff happen.” I told her that he’s not like that. After that, I just shut down.
We’re both in the medical field but with different jobs. Based on my career trajectory, I will be making more than him in a few years. But who cares? If he wants to have a relationship and marry someone just for the money, he can achieve that much more quickly by being with someone else. But he’s not.
I’m just pissed off that my friend would say that. At this point, I don’t want to hang out with her anymore. Perhaps I’m making a big deal out of something small, but I’m peeved that she’s not being very supportive. Actually, it’s the opposite. Her tone of voice didn’t even show concern; it was more of a matter-of-fact statement. Wtf?
Thanks for the vent. Anyone else have any “friends” that like to rain on your parade?
Post # 3
I have had one friend who was worried about my Boyfriend or Best Friend. He is an adult but he never got his license to drive. I never saw it as a big deal because he always talked about getting his license at some point. I just figured he was like my sister and was never really motivated to learn to drive. Well I told my friend about it and she was like “What kind of man is he since he owns no car and has no license?” I explained to her that its not a problem that I have with him. When I drive, he pays for the gas and my dinner. He has never once made me pay for myself and he spoils me all the time! He calls me his queen and has been nothing but a gentleman. He wants to learn but like with everyone in this economy, money is tight and they have cut hours at his job so he cant afford it right now. I know that he will learn as soon as the finances get straightened out. I never thought that driving would be such a big deal. I love my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I would not break up with him over something so small. It just took me back that out of all the good things my Boyfriend or Best Friend does, that was the one thing she harped on.
Post # 4
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were long distance for two years when I lived in Japan. My friend and I were talking about our plans for the future, and he invited my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I to come visit him… “That is, if you’re even still together by then.” It stung. He both “justified” his statement and made me feel like crap for being upset by saying, “If you were secure in your relationship, my comment wouldn’t have bothered you. There must be trouble under the surface.” It was like he was looking for hidden relationship drama that just wasn’t there.
Post # 5
It wasn’t a friend who rained on my parade it was my parents. Fiance and I had just come out of long term relationships (that had been falling apart long before we met each other) and my parents came over for a dinner and a heart to heart about some things. During our discussion they blatantly said that they thought our relationship was a rebound and that rebound relationships statistically don’t last. A few weeks later we were engaged and we are getting married in 99 days. I guess the joke is on them.
Post # 6
I think your friend is just jealous. Don’t worry about her.