(Closed) so tired of TTC

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It takes the average woman 6-12 months on average to conceive … so I think you are jumping the gun with freaking out yet. Especially if you were on hormonal birth control up until 3 months ago, you need to relax and let the birth control clear out of your system, then let nature take its course.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MrsJVP: Even with being off of birth control, they say it takes 6-12 months on average to conceive. I know most women I know who have gotten pregnant say it has taken about 6 months. Consider this – every month, even with perfect timing, you only have a 20% chance of sperm meeting egg, and successful implantation. So you have no reason to worry for another few months at least!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugh… me too. It’s only month two πŸ˜‰ 

Like PP said, 85% or so of women get pregnant within 6-8 months. Only 30% of couples get it right the first month… 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

For most women it takes a while.  You just need to relax and keep trying.  There is NO reason to freak out yet.  Did you speak to your doctor before you started trying?  Unless she told you that you have reason to be concerned, I’m sure you are doing fine.  Keep trying (that’s the fun part!) and if you’re still not pregnant in a year, I would go back to your doctor and figure out what’s up.  No worries, just breathe!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m going to have to chime in here on your age πŸ˜‰  27 is not old…there are still many good, fertile years ahead of you.  I will be 30 next year at my wedding and plan to start TTC around 32 or 33, so I promise 27 is not old πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You’re not at all old, but I do understand the frustration about trying to get pregnant.  I get downright mad when i see someone posting that it’s their 1st, 2nd, 3rd month and they’re pregnant.  I know it’s silly but it’s so hard.  We’re on our 4th month and I can’t tell if I’ve got some spotting or AF is here.  I know there is always next month but it would just be great if we could have any easy time at this too.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Hang in there…I’m right in the middle of month 3 and I totally get jealous of all of my friends who are announcing their pregnancies right now. But, what’s a couple of months?  Chances are we will both be pregnant within the next 6 months right?  

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Please don’t get too upset yet.  It often takes a while to get pregnant, no matter what your age is:

About 85 percent of all couples will get pregnant within a year, but it’s also wise to have some realistic expectations. The average time it takes to conceive, for instance, is about six months, and women under 35 should wait until they’ve tried for a year before they consider calling their doctor or a fertility specialist

Are you doing anything like charting to have a better idea when the ideal time to try is?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

did you just write that post for me??!!! lol. seriously – so many of us out here are in your boat. We’ve only been technically trying for 2 months – as far as me charting and whatnot – but I’ve been off BC since March. Every month that AF comes it’s like “ugh – ok, another month of trying”…

and I’M 31 – my husband is 37!!!! neither of us have any kids, so this is our first – and what’s REALLY hard? I just found out another girl at work is pregnant – that makes #4 – all younger than me, too – and this girl was a COMPLETE surprise! one of those who – she’s been with her boyfriend for years, but NO one would EVER think of her to be TTC.

it sucks. but it WILL happen. just think – once it DOES happen, it IS  a lifetime commitment! they’ll be here FOREVER! πŸ˜€

good luck and ::babydust:: to you!!! πŸ˜€

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I totally understand your frustration!  We were not trying not to for about a year.  Then really trying for a few months and now we’re on fertility drugs and it’s still not happening.  It’s so frustrating to try and try and have nothing happen.  I have 4 friends who are all pregnant – 2 “accidents” and 2 who got it on the first try – which makes it even more frustrating.

I’ll tell you what my mom keeps telling me (she’s a nurse) – just try to stay relaxed.  The stress and frustration aren’t good for TTC.  Way easier said than done, I know.

Good luck!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

I can totally relate! I’ve been off the pill for 5 months now and officially TTC for 3. I’m “waiting” for Aunt Flo now, but my cycles have been so irregular that I’m not sure when exactly she’ll be coming. Could be any day now, but I’m afraid of testing too early and getting a disappointing result!

And to make you feel better, I just turned 30, so you’re not old! We’re hoping to have some news soon, but it’s still really disappoining when Aunt Flo arrives. Even if it’s only been a few months.

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